Five Science-Backed Strategies
for More Happiness
Several exercises to help you make the most of the
International Day of Happiness.
Did you know that happiness has its own
holiday?
Four years ago, the General Assembly of the United
Nations proclaimed March 20 to be the International Day of Happiness. It’s easy to understand why they see happiness as
something to celebrate: Happy people are healthier; they get sick less often and
live longer. Happy people are more likely to get married and have fulfilling
marriages, and they have more
friends. Theymake more money and are more
productive at work. Based on decades of research, it has become
clear that happiness is not just a personal issue; it’s a matter of public
health, global
economics, and national well-being.
But it doesn’t come easy, as most of us know.
Disappointments and annoyances grab our attention like gnats, and even the good
things in life seem to lose their luster over time. Add to that a crammed
schedule and mounting obligations, and happiness might just seem out of
reach—achievable for other people, perhaps, but not us.
Fortunately, research suggests that
happiness is something we can cultivate with practice. The
Greater Good Science Center has collected many happiness practices on our website Greater Good in Action, alongside
other research-based exercises for fostering kindness, connection, and
resilience. Below are 11 of those happiness practices, grouped into five
broader strategies for a more fulfilling life.
1.
Acknowledge the good
If we don’t feel happy, it’s tempting to look
for things to fix: the job that isn’t prestigious enough, the apartment that’s too
cramped, our partner’s annoying habit. But focusing on all the negatives isn’t
the surest route to feeling better. Instead, a simple way to start cultivating
happiness is by recognizing the good.
In the Three Good
Things exercise, for example, you keep a
journal devoted solely to the positives in your life. Each evening, you write
down three things that went well and add some detail about each, including how
they made you feel. For example, you might recall a heartfelt thank you from a
coworker, a quiet moment drinking tea, or your daughter’s infectious laughter.
Importantly, you also briefly explain why you think each good thing
happened—which focuses your attention on the enduring sources of goodness that
surround you.
A 2005 study invited participants to do this practice daily for
a week, and afterward they reported feeling happier and less depressed than when
they started. In fact, they maintained their happiness boost six months later,
illustrating how impactful it can be to focus on the good things in life.
Many of those good things lie just outside
our doorstep, and we can practice noticing them on aSavoring Walk. Here, you take a 20-minute walk and observe the sights,
sounds, and smells you encounter—freshly cut grass, an epic skyscraper, a
stranger’s smile. Each time you notice something positive, take the time to
absorb it and think about why you enjoy it. On your subsequent Savoring Walks,
strike out in different directions to seek new things to admire.
In a study by Fred
Bryant of Loyola University Chicago,
participants who took Savoring Walks daily for a week reported greater
increases in happiness than participants who went for walks as usual. “Making a
conscious effort to notice and explicitly acknowledge the various sources of
joy around us can make us happier,” write Bryant and Joseph Veroff in the
book Savoring.
If you have trouble seeing the good that’s
already around you, another strategy is to create some. InCreating and
Recalling Positive Events, you carve out time for
yourself and fill your schedule with enjoyment.
When you have a day free, don’t rush around
doing chores; instead, try three different happy activities:
·
Something you do alone, such as reading, listening to music, or meditating.
·
Something you do with
others, such as going out for coffee, riding
your bike, or watching a movie.
·
Something meaningful, such as volunteering, helping a neighbor in need,
or calling a friend who’s struggling.
If your go-to happiness practice has been
Netflix and a bowl of ice cream, this exercise can reconnect you with different
sources of satisfaction. These three activities should offer you a sense of
pleasure, engagement, and meaning, all viable paths
to a satisfying life. A 2014 study found that even psychiatric patients with suicidal
thoughts found value in doing this exercise, reporting more optimism and less
hopelessness afterward.
2. Add
happiness through subtraction
Even
after we identify the positives in our life, we’re still prone to adapting to
them over time. A good thing repeated brings us less satisfaction, until it no
longer seems to contribute to our day-to-day mood at
all; we take it for granted. That’s why, sometimes, it’s a good idea to
introduce a little deprivation.
In Mental
Subtraction of Positive Events, you
call to mind a certain positive event—the birth of a child, a career
achievement, a special trip—and think of all the circumstances that made it
possible. How could things have turned out differently? Just taking a moment to
imagine this alternate reality creates a favorable comparison, where suddenly
our life looks quite good.
In a 2008 study, participants who performed this exercise reported feeling more gratitude and other positive emotions than participants who simply thought about past positive events without imagining their absence. Mental Subtraction seems to jolt us into the insight that the good things in our lives aren’t inevitable; we are, in fact, very lucky.
In a 2008 study, participants who performed this exercise reported feeling more gratitude and other positive emotions than participants who simply thought about past positive events without imagining their absence. Mental Subtraction seems to jolt us into the insight that the good things in our lives aren’t inevitable; we are, in fact, very lucky.
If imagining absence isn’t quite enough for
you, what about experiencing it for real? In the Give It Uppractice, you spend a week abstaining from a pleasure in
order to appreciate it more fully. This pleasure should be something that’s
relatively abundant in your life, such as eating chocolate or watching TV. At
the end of the week, when you can finally indulge, pay special attention to how
it feels.
In a 2013 study, people who gave up chocolate savored it more and
experienced a more positive mood when they finally ate it at the end of the
week, compared with people who ate chocolate as usual. This exercise may not
only open your eyes to a single pleasure (like the miracle of cacao), but make
you more conscious of life’s many other pleasures, too.
3.
Find meaning and purpose
Creating and Recalling Positive Events
reminds us that pleasure isn’t the only path to bliss; meaning can also bring
us happiness, albeit a quieter and more reflective kind.
In the Meaningful
Photos practice, you take pictures of things
that are meaningful to you and reflect on them. Over the course of a week, look
out for sources of meaning in your life—family members, favorite spots,
childhood mementos—and capture about nine or ten different images of them. At
the end of the week, spend an hour reflecting on them: What does each photo
represent, and why is it meaningful to you? Jot down some of those thoughts if
it’s helpful.
Amid the chores and routines, life can
sometimes feel dull and mundane. Reigniting our sense of meaning can remind us
what’s important, which boosts our energy and gives us strength to face life’s
stresses. In a 2013 study, college students who completed this exercise not only
boosted their sense of meaning, but also reported greater positive emotions and
life satisfaction as well.
We can also boost our energy and motivation
by fostering a sense of purpose, and the Best Possible
Self exercise is one way to do that. Here,
you journal for 15 minutes about an ideal future in which everything is going
as well as possible, from your family and personal life to your career and
health.
In a 2006 study, participants who wrote about their Best Possible Selves
daily for two weeks reported greater positive emotions afterward, and their
mood continued increasing up to a month later if they kept up the practice.
This exercise allows us to clarify our goals
and priorities, painting a detailed picture of where we want to be. This
picture should be ambitious but realistic so that it motivates us to make
changes, rather than reminding us how imperfect and disappointing our lives are
now. When we reflect on our future this way, we may feel more in control of our
destiny.
4. Use
your strengths
Just as we hunt for things to fix in life, we
also tend to obsess over flaws in ourselves; our weaknesses loom large. But
what if we put more time and attention into our strengths and positive
attributes?
The Use Your
Strengths exercise invites you to consider your
strengths of character—from creativity and perseverance to kindness and
humility—and put them into practice. Each day for a week, select a strength and
make a plan to use it in a new and different way. You can repeat the same
strength—directing your curiosity toward a work project one day and toward your
partner’s interests the next—or work on different strengths each day. At the
end of the week, synthesize the experience by writing about what you did, how
it made you feel, and what you learned.
In a 2005 study, participants who engaged in this exercise for a week
reported feeling happier and less depressed, and that happiness boost lasted up
to six months. Use Your Strengths may help us transfer skills between home and
work—applying our professional creativity to our children’s school assignments
or our domestic kindness to our co-workers—and give us a confidence boost all
around.
5.
Connect with others
The practices above invite us to turn inward,
tinkering with our attitudes and the way we view the world. But decades of science also suggest that turning outward and connecting to
the people around us is one of the surest routes to happiness.
As a first step, you can try an adapted
version of the Best Possible Self
exercise for relationships to give you insights
into what kinds of social connection you desire. In an ideal life, what would
your relationships with your spouse, family, and friends look like?
One way to feel an immediate boost of
connection is through Random Acts of
Kindness. Random Acts of Kindness don’t have to be
flashy or extravagant; they can be as simple as helping a friend with a chore
or making breakfast for your partner. You can also extend your circle of
kindness to strangers and community members, feeding a parking meter or
offering a meal to someone in need.
In a 2005 study, participants who performed five acts of kindness on one
day a week for six weeks reported increases in happiness. (This didn’t happen
when they spread out their acts of kindness across the week, perhaps because a
single kind act may not feel noteworthy on its own.) Researchers also suggest
varying your acts of kindness over time to keep the practice fresh and dynamic.
Some of your acts of kindness may involve
giving, and the Make Giving Feel
Good practice helps ensure that giving does,
indeed, bring happiness. Researchers Elizabeth Dunn
and Michael Norton, among others, have found evidence that
being kind and generous does make us happier, but they’ve also found that acts
of giving are most effective when they meet these three criteria:
·
It’s a choice: Give because you choose to, not
because you feel pressured or obligated to.
·
You connect: Giving can be an opportunity to make connections
with the people you’re helping, so choose activities where you get to spend
time with recipients, like helping a friend move or volunteering at a soup
kitchen.
·
You see the impact: If you’re donating money, for example, don’t just
give and move on. Find out what your money will be used for—like new classroom
supplies or a cooking stove.
In a 2011 study, participants were offered a $10 Starbucks gift card to
use in different ways: They either gave it to someone, gave it to someone and
joined them for a drink, or used it on themselves while drinking with a friend.
The ones who gave the card away and spent time with the
recipient—connecting with them and seeing the impact of giving—felt happiest
afterward.
Of course, the pursuit of happiness isn’t all
sunshine and rainbows and mugs of tea and smiling children. Sometimes we need
to tackle our insecurities and weaknesses, and we can’t just ignore our
draining jobs and nagging relatives. But the practices here represent the other
side of the coin, the one we often neglect: seeing, appreciating, and
mobilizing the good.
By Kira M. Newman
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