PERSONAL SPECIAL 10
Things Every Indecisive Person Wants You To Know
Sushi or Mexican?
Paper or plastic? Quit your job or wait for a promotion?
Some decisions in
life are major and others insignificant, some obvious while others require a
little more thought. But for indecisive people, all choices have one thing in
common: They feel impossible to make.
It can be downright
frustrating to deal with someone who just can't seem to make up their mind (and
for this, as an indecisive person, I'd like to apologize on behalf of all of
us), but there's a reason why we behave this way. Below are 10 things that
perpetually indecisive people want you to know about their personalities.
1. We prefer to
just go with the flow.
Comedy movie?
Thriller? We're not going to be the ones to debate it. We care about the
company, not the activity.
2. We're people
pleasers at our core.
We don't want to
upset anyone over a choice we make, whether it's a weekend activity or a more
serious issue like leaving our job for a new one. Harmony is when everyone is
at peace with a decision -- we just need to remember to include ourselves in
that equation.
3. We may identify
as highly sensitive.
Highly sensitive
people have an acute ability to recognize subtleties and details which could
make decisions more challenging, HSP researcher Elaine Aron previously told
HuffPost.
4. We solicit
pretty much everyone's opinion before figuring out our own.
Mom, Dad, grandma,
the owner of our favorite bodega. Whoever they are, they help us make a more
informed decision.
5. We're
reflective.
We think long and
hard about our decisions because we're terrified of making the wrong one. This
isn't so bad in theory, but sometimes that reflection can get the best of us.
Research suggests that indecisiveness is associated with excess worry, which is
not so great for our health. And in more extreme cases, it may also be
associated with mental health issues, such as depressive symptoms.
6. Big decisions
are mentally exhausting.
We take a long time
to make up our minds about the monumental changes in our lives, like moving to
a different city or taking a new job. That's because we know how important they
are and we don't want to mess anything up. Because of this, we put a lot of
pressure on ourselves and that can be taxing.
A pro tip for all
the fellow indecisive people out there: Go with your gut if you're short on
time. Research suggests following our emotions generally lead to better
outcomes rather than analyzing the details.
7. Even choosing
where to go to dinner can be a chore.
"I don't know
where we should go, but I know I definitely don't want to go to that burger
joint, that Asian-fusion place or that Italian restaurant." Hey, knowing
what you don't want is half the battle, right?
8. We sometimes
agonize about our decision long after we make it.
That's because
we're terrified of making the wrong one. We're not big risk takers, and would
rather know the outcome as soon as something has been decided (which, as we all
know, isn't always how life works).
9. Pro-con lists
are our best friends.
Pros for going on a
run: You'll feel better and you'll improve your endurance.
Cons: It's raining
and there's a "Friends" marathon on TV right now.
10. We're really
proud of ourselves when we efficiently make a decision.
Little by little
we're trying to be more strong-willed -- even if that means just making a
split-second choice on what chips to bring to a party. Practice makes perfect,
right?
To all of our
decisive loved ones, thanks for taking charge when we can't. Let's just say, if
there was one thing on which we'd be quick to make a decision, it'd be that we
weren't so indecisive in the first place.
The Huffington Post | By Lindsay Holmes
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/06/01/signs-youre-indecisive_n_7486270.html?ncid=newsltushpmg00000003&ir=India&adsSiteOverride=i
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