You've reached the top! Now what?
WHY DO SO MANY AMBITIOUS AND TALENTED EXECUTIVES
PLATEAU, BURN OUT, AND AT TIMES REGRESS ONCE THEY "REACH THE TOP"?
Top executives love the challenges, risks, and
thrills of doing what others have not done-envisioning new horizons, exploring
the unknown, moving to the next peak and eventually reaching the top.Then, why
do so many of them plateau, burn out, and at times regress once they “reach the
top“ of whatever ladder, mountain or organisational structure they've been
climbing?
My answer, based on both research and reflection, is that while they tend to be great talkers (because they continually pitch their visions, strategies, products and services to investors, banks, employees, customers, clients, and partners), they may plateau when it comes to connecting deeply with others.
My answer, based on both research and reflection, is that while they tend to be great talkers (because they continually pitch their visions, strategies, products and services to investors, banks, employees, customers, clients, and partners), they may plateau when it comes to connecting deeply with others.
EXPAND
YOUR CONNECTING PROFILE
With the right digital tools, we can now connect
24x7 from anywhere in the world at any time, but it's not enough to have the
tools to connect. We also need the wisdom to connect. We need Conversational
Intelligence® (CIQ), a framework for knowing which conversations trigger our
lower-level brain activity, such as primitive instincts for fight, flight,
freeze and appeasement, versus what sparks higher-level brain activity, such as
trust, integrity, strategic thinking, empathy, and capability to process complex
situations.The more we see how much of our brain is devoted to social
connection, the more we realise how connecting with others in healthy and
productive ways becomes vital for our mutual success in teams and
organisations.
PROBLEM:
WHAT INHIBITS HEALTHY CONNECTIONS?
Having communication blind spots.
Sadly, I see many leaders bomb in critical
meetings and situations because of low C-IQ: they don't speak to influence and
thus, fail to connect. People with high C-IQ activate their audience's
prefrontal cortex, a section of the brain that enables trust and good judgment.
People with low CIQ engage the lower brain, where fear and distrust reside.
Talking past each other .
Breakdowns happen when people talk past each
other, not with each other. Once you recognise your conversational blind spots,
you can boost your C-IQ by identifying what is going wrong in conversations and
situations and flip the switch in your brain and others' brains to get
communications back on a productive and neural path.
Not seeing beyond your vision.
The tough road of leadership and
entrepreneurship demands total belief in the enterprise and its vision.
Unfortunately, having total belief can blind you to the need to see beyond your
vision and gain buy-in from diverse constituents, or listen to their push back
if they don't agree at first.
Not minding the gap.
To bridge blind spots, you need to mind the gap
and step into your conversation partner's world, shift from talking about
yourself and your solutions, and start co-creating by focusing on shared
success.This involves identifying what the people in the loop want from you.
SOLUTION:
CO-CREATING CONVERSATIONS
Co-creating conversations enables you to
co-create the future.This is not about a quick fix or a new policy, lecturing
or tellsellyell; it's about navigating with others in and out of scenarios
from many perspectives. Such conversations create healthy practices and rituals
for how work gets done inside the culture.They enable us to create a movie
screen on which to project scenarios for the future so we can explore them and
choose the best paths.
As we understand others' perspectives, we can
form a WEcentric rather than an I-centric view of the future. As we create the
conversational space for change, we reduce fears and threats and help people
find their place in the change process.We can then breathe in a coherent,
collaborative way.To breathe means to aspire.When we are calm and connected to
others during change, our aspirations become greater and our capabilities
increase.
-Judith E Glaser is CEO of Benchmark
Communications, Inc, chairman of The Creating WE Institute, consultant to
Fortune 500 Companies, and author of four bestselling business books
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