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Look at the positive side





Do you get dragged into the negativity of people around you? These eight ways will help you deal with them

Lack of gratitude, perennial cribbing, stress and depression is a deadly mix and many survive them for years. These are the people who are often referred to as negative people. They are the ones who survive on worry. “It takes but one positive thought when given a chance to survive and thrive to overpower an entire army of negative thoughts,“ said author Robert H Schuller. However, some people are always consumed by bad days on a regular basis that they cannot get out of after a point.

Past studies have revealed that negative people tend to focus on the bad, making them more likely to experience angry outbursts that take attention away from the work they are doing. The emotional effect hinders a person's ability to be in the present. Science may suggest that you should stay away from such people. But, there are times you cannot avoid them totally, especially when they are your colleagues or close friends. Here are a few tips to help you handle them better.

Interact less

Try to interact less with people who have negative thoughts or who are surrounded by a negative environment. Not only does their thinking matter, but their presence also leaves an after-effect on your personality.

Think positive

When you are surrounded by people with a negative mindset, you should be patient and try to be optimistic in your approach.

Avoid arguments or detailed discussions

Try not to indulge in discussions with them. Most often a discussion leads to an argument which might take a bitter shape.

Do not react but respond

Responding to the other person helps overcome the stress caused by their negative approach to life.Judgement to their opinion may lead to a rough path.Avoid conflict by choosing to respond with patience.

Listen and empathise

Sometimes people with such thoughts want some one to just listen to them. One should listen and empathise with them and not take things personally.

Focus on positive words

It is important to focus on the positive words of the conversation and not the negative aspect.

Distract them

When people just crib about the same problem time and again, try to change the topic or do tasks or activities which will leave a positive impact on everyone.

This will distract the person from the issues and see other positive aspects of life.

Try not to make their problem yours

After listening to their problems, do not dwell on their issues. Instead, give solutions. Don't get consumed by the darkness.

As Mary Engelbreit , graphic artist and children's book illustrator puts it, “If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change the way you think about it.“

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