10 Books That Can Change Your Life in One Long Weekend
1.Top
5 Regrets of the Dying
Life
is more than about just making money. In fact, I have found a lot of rich
people are still unhappy or unfulfilled. This book does a great job addressing
other life concerns.
The
author saw hundreds of people pass because she worked in a retirement home.
I
have definitely changed how I live my life and what I want to do because of the
book. My priorities have shifted.
Biggest
takeaways: Do more things that you wouldn't do out of fear of failure. Our
biggest regrets are often out of fear or trying to please others. Don't live
someone's dream life or job if it's not your own. You can be happy in the most
mundane or simple times.
The
author of the book has some great stories that taught me about life as well.
She
was quite happy despite living a modest life. She was thankful for every moment
because she survived cancer. She counseled many elderly men and women, some
rich, some poor, some bitter at the world, some angry, and some depressed. One
of my favorite stories was one where a rich but bitter woman was angry and
confused as to how she could be so happy all the time.
2.
The Millionaire Next Door
Want
to get the surprise of your life? This book unveils some common trends of
millionaires after studying thousands that go against the stereotype. For
example, the most common car they own is a pick-up truck, and they usually live
modest lives.
I
still remember this book after many years! I listened to it on audiobook while
playing Batman: Arkham City and Battlefield.
Nonetheless,
it left a deep impression on me about personal finance and wealth creation. It
led me down a whirlwind path of improving my finances and understanding how
wealth is made.
Biggest
takeaway: you can get rich slowly over time even with a modest salary if you
budget, save, and invest. Most millionaires live very modestly and have modest
cars/houses/items. They spend on what they enjoy and got there through being
frugal and smart. They're not like stereotypical millionaires you would imagine
with fancy mansions.
Having
said that, there are tons of takeaways, and I will be reading this again.
3.
Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell
The
biggest lesson from this one was that IQ and natural genetic intelligence
definitely don't guarantee success. And if you're good enough, what matters a
lot is how much more time you put into practicing compared to the next guy, not
how much more naturally gifted you are.
In
the book, there was a reference to a study that tracked thousands of the
nation's highest-IQ children over their lifetimes. As adults, they were
shockingly no more successful than a randomly selected control group. Some were
garbage men!
How
did this occur? Clearly, there's more to success than just IQ. Social and
emotional intelligence are big players in a world where you have to deal with
politics, social interaction, managing people, leading people, and other
obstacles.
Another
huge takeaway was that I will always pay respect and be thankful for how lucky
I am. Every successful person has some element of luck at play even if they do
all the right things. Even if you don't think you have any luck, you do. I
thought I didn't have much, but I was lucky enough to be born in the U.S. out
of all the countries in the world.
4.Made
In America by Sam Walton
One
of my first experiences with deeply peering into the thought process and
lifestyle of one of the richest men in the entire world.
I
was quite shocked: He lived very modestly. Talked and treated others as equals.
He was always a charismatic people's man. He cared more about his company than
spending that money right up until he died.
Sam
taught me the power of humility and eagerness to learn.
Let
me paint the story: this man had built one store into a billion-dollar empire.
He was the richest man in the U.S. Was he sailing around on yachts? No. He
decided to spend an entire day driving with his truck drivers to see what their
lives were like to remove inefficiencies. It wasn't beneath him.
Another
time, he and one of his top executives went into a smaller competitor's store.
The whole store was a mess and horrible in almost every way: messy aisles,
disorganized products, bad product positioning, and so on. The executive came
out of the store talking about how bad the store was in every way. What Sam
said next stopped him in his tracks and taught him a lesson he would remember
for the rest of his life.
Sam
simply mentioned the one tiny detail he found in the store that they were doing
better than Walmart's store. And he asked for his executive to immediately work
on it.
This
man was always looking to improve and never too humble to learn from others.
There's plenty of other stories like this in the book. Some involving him
crawling on all fours measuring aisle lengths in his competitors stores.
He
taught me some great lessons on social skills, respect, leading a team,
learning from others, and transparency.
It
was a great book with many business and life lessons.
5.
Awaken The Giant Within by Tony Robbins
The
biggest lesson in Anthony Robbin's classic, best-known book is his introductory
chapter. He tells the story of how he flies over a building in his personal
helicopter and realizes it was the building he used to work in as a janitor.
He
was flying to a place to speak (he's a well-known motivational speaker) and so
many people had signed up to attend that traffic had blocked up all the streets
leading up to the area. Now, Tony Robbins is worth over 500 million and runs a
multi-billion dollar set of companies.
Why
did this story move me so much? Because I had big dreams too and was doubtful
as to how I could possibly get there.
For
Tony Robbins to have little education as a janitor and get to where he is in 10
years really inspired me.
6.
Act Like A Success, Think Like A Success by Steve Harvey
Steve's
story really spoke to me in a similar way that Tony Robbins' did.
He
came from a place much worse than me and rose to a place much better. What
spoke to me even more than that was how he began his journey.
He
dropped out of school and worked at a factory while his friend Arsenio Hall
went to chase his dream of being a comedian (a dream Steve had himself). Steve
and his friends laughed at Arsenio for being impractical.
6
years later, Steve was hating his job at the factory. He saw Arsenio on TV,
having achieved his dream, and called all his friends in shock. Later he broke
down crying because Arsenio achieved his dream.
Steve
realized Arsenio exercised some laws of success and created what he wanted. He
did the same thing and achieved multi-million dollar success himself.
Steve
goes into detail about his journey in his book. There's a lot of great lessons
about how you can't let other people's beliefs become your own and how you
focus on being the best rather than on making more money.
His
story was not an overnight success one. I didn't even know for the longest
time! For years, I thought he was just another overnight success comedian I
always saw on TV until I found out about his book. Steve struggled for a long
time against many doubters including many of his previous bosses. He even was
homeless.
One
of my favorite lessons of his is to always be thankful for what you have. You
can be rich but ungrateful and everything you get doesn't affect you. You don't
want to live like that.
Other
similar stories that spoke to me in tough times where I thought there was
little hope were from billionaire John Paul DeJoria and Chris Gardner, both of
who lived through homelessness as well.
This is an economy that allows for
great upside potential no matter your past or present situation.
I would say the biggest emotionally
driven movie scene that also spoke to me in this way was from Rocky Balboa when he talked to his
son.
I thought he was speaking straight to me when he screamed:
"But somewhere along the line, you
changed. You stopped being you. You let people stick a finger in your face and
tell you you're no good. And when things got hard, you started looking for
something to blame, like a big shadow.
Let
me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and
rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are
it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it.
You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how
hard ya hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How
much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done!
Now if you know what you're worth then go out and get what you're worth.
But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying
you ain't where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards
do that and that ain't you! You're better than that!"
The
way Sylvester Stallone acted out this scene was so emotionally evocative for me
that I almost started crying. When he talked about blaming others, I related to
that. When he said, "You're better than that!", I felt like he was
speaking right to me through the screen.
The message is clear: stop making
excuses or blaming someone else. It's not about how tough life gets, it's about
how you keep moving forward. Cowards blame others and that isn't you.
7.
Success Through Stillness by Russell Simmons
I
accidentally found this book and read it on a whim. It really added incredible
insights.
This
man was a hard-drug addict, hip-hop mogul, and multi-millionaire. He
dramatically increased his success, saved his own life, and changed it for the
better through meditation.
In
the book, he goes into great detail about
·
how
meditation isn't a religion
·
how
it's the key to his success and 10xing his success
·
how
it allowed him to become present in the moment and save his life from the brain
damage from crack and other hard drugs.
He
tells it in a very easy-to-understand way. Even to this day, he has very deep
connections with some of the best in the modern hip hop scene. You'll see him
in a lot of paparazzi photos with some of the world's most connected actors and
musicians.
It
was also interesting reading one quick story about how his friend spent
hundreds of thousands of dollars to try to date a Victoria's Secret model and
still failed. It's a lesson that attests to the fact that just because you're
rich doesn't mean you're good with girls.
8.
The How of Happiness
Most
of what we do is to be happier. So it would make sense to learn what makes us
happy and what doesn't. In fact, a lot of successful entrepreneurs chase what
they "think" will bring them happiness, only to find out that it
doesn't.
I
really struggled with happiness and was confused with all the advice I got from
people. These were opinions, and who knew if they were true? Even if the advice
on happiness came from established people from church or wealthy millionaires,
I wasn't sure if the advice was the real truth. I didn't want opinions anymore;
I wanted the science of happiness.
I
wanted the complete A to Z on happiness based on extensive scientific testing.
After
going through many bad books on happiness that claimed to have science but did
it in a messy manner, I found this book, which was almost everything I asked
for. It was also not too long or boring to read.
It
did a great job of covering all the bases and since I've been using its
principles, I am in a much happier place that is sustainable.
I
walk through life having a much clearer understanding of happiness than 99% of
the world based on decades of experimental testing and research.
One of my big missions on my blog is to
share with the world that more money, fame, wealth, cars, mansions,
clothing, women, or materialistic possessions will not increase your
happiness. You will get used to it very quickly. Studies have been
well documented that track and prove this.
What
actually increases our happiness are things like savoring the moment,
relationships, social circles, gratefulness, and a variety of other activities
mentioned in the book. Becoming happier is partially genetic and partially a
difficult but worthy habit to obtain.
It's
a huge mission of mine to spread this message because I am well plugged into
social media and see thousands of kids chase these things and get depressed
through social comparison. Because I watch a lot of speeches and interviews of
successful people in my free time, I also observe a lot of successful, wealthy
people who finally get there and realize it didn't make them happier.
Most recently, we've had celebrities
like Cara DeLevigne, Lady Gaga, Russell Brand, and Jay-Z come out and talk
about this.
9.
Tap Dancing To Work
This
one is a profile on Warren Buffett.
I
say this because although the book was great, it was really all the things I
learned because of the book that I'm thankful for. It really was one of the
gateway books that really spurred me into learning as much as I can about
Warren Buffett the billionaire.
Because
of this, I learned so many life lessons.
The
money manager Mohnish Pabrai said it best: "The most amazing things about
Warren Buffett have nothing to do with business or money."
Although
I went in to learn about how he made his money, I learned a lot of incredible
life lessons:
·
live
modestly
·
happiness
isn't tied to money
·
family
time is often more important than time at work
·
you
should love what you do for a living
·
always
be ethical or it'll come back to bite you
·
you
should never be envious or jealous of other people who lucked out
These
seem like simple concepts but I see so many people every day who don't follow
them. Also, Buffett illustrates these in very unique ways with how he lives his
own life and the mistakes he's made.
By
becoming consistently one of the richest people in the world over the last few
decades, he has continued to live in a modest house, driven a modest car, eat
at McDonald's, and give many examples of how being unethical screwed over other
companies, and he's proved how he being patient beat being jealous.
10. The 4 Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss
This
book is constantly spoken about in the business and self-help niche.
At
first, I was annoyed about it and thought it was overhyped. But then, I
realized what a feat it was. Tim literally wrote this book only several
years ago and went from being a nobody to a legend in the space. It's
admirable.
There's
a lot of good tips and hacks about business, productivity, and travel in here.
These
are the biggest takeaways and warnings I have for you:
·
My
only warning: Don't be fooled by the title. It was split-tested and works the
best. However, I don't even think Tim recommends the 4 hour work week. You
still need to work hard for what you want in life.
·
Productivity
hack: Only check emails twice a day maximum and only towards the end of the
day. They are often not as high priority as other things you can do and it
sucks up your time.
·
Travel
hacking: Tim opened me up to the world of travel hacking, which I spent a lot
more time researching through books and websites. He made me realize that I
could travel the world even if I'm not super rich because the cost of living is
so much lower in other countries that money goes a longer way and because you
can cut unnecessary costs by getting cheaper hotels, use travel credit cards,
and cheaper forms of transportation.
by Will Chou, on Quora:
http://www.inc.com/quora/10-books-that-can-change-your-life-in-one-long-weekend.html?cid=nl029week47day25
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