BOOK SUMMARY 153 Small Move, Big Change
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Summary written by: Jennifer Fitzgerald Hansen
"[It] is about making resolutions that succeed EVERY
time. By rethinking willpower, and refocusing your resolutions, you can master
the art of instant and sustainable self-improvement."
- Small Move, Big Change, page xiv
What a
wonderful coincidence that I decide to read Small Move, Big Change in
December, the month traditionally set aside for, among other things, reflection
and planning and often making resolutions that fail within the first 15 days of
January! This year I am prepared to not be a part of the “88%” collective fail
rate.
Arnold
goes through all the things each of us does that contributes to the
self-sabotage which almost always guarantees failure of the change we are
trying to implement. We make wishes not resolutions: “I will be fit, I will be
organized, I will be assertive.” We rely solely on willpower; we are too
impatient; we underestimate the resistance to change; and, quite honestly, we
really expect to fail – why else would we take out only a one/three/six month
gym membership instead of a lifetime one? Come on, we know what will happen, it
has happened before, right?
Arnold
shows us right at the beginning of the book why our ‘old tried and true’
methods for making any kind of change, personal or professional, is destined
for failure. Once we are willing to let go of these ideas that are hard wired
into our brain as the ‘only way’ to improve, she guides us down her path of
rules and examples of microresolutions.
The Golden Egg
Make a resolution you can keep – REALLY keep!
"Put
aside the familiar temptation to try and fix everything all at once by tomorrow
and focus instead on making a resolution that is so reasonable you are sure you
can make it stick... target a limited behavioural change... don’t over
reach."- Small Move, Big Change, page 9
Instead
of the standard New Year’s Day resolution of changing ten things in your life,
Arnold gets us to be real – real simple! Focus on no more than two or three
things; make it small; build on that success and then and only then, move on.
Nothing vague either: not get organized, get fit, stop being late. Her rules
equate into distinct and defined actions that build into behavioural changes
that become habit and led us in the direction of our choice towards long
lasting self-improvement.
It is
imperative that your microresolution be easy to keep, so easy in fact that we
shouldn’t have to make any decisions around keeping it. Making decisions, any
decision, leads to weaker resolve and therefore, a more likely environment of
failure. Unrealistic resolutions cause us to make frequent and numerous
decisions regarding their implementation: call them deferrals or tradeoffs of
the original change. Unfortunately for us, this means we are less likely to
have the necessary energy to implement the change. The goal here is for auto
pilot – no decision making necessary.
Gem #1
Clear–crystal clear–and measurable!
"A
microresolution is an action; not something you commit to be but something you
commit to do ... not a wish, a philosophy, or a result; its straightforward
purpose is to build, change or eliminate a specific behaviour or
attitude."- Small Move, Big Change, page 15
So
Arnold leads us into Rule #2 – all microresolutions are explicit and measurable
actions. There is to be no guessing around your microresolution and the ironic
part is that the clearer you are, the easier it is to measure your success and
reach your goal. There is no place here for being flexible or fuzz – that just
creates room for failure not to mention stress and anxiety!
It is
very important to learn to set realistic goals. This is almost the backbone of
Arnold’s method. You must be able to keep them, preferably daily – being that
they are so small you are doing the task each and every day. By having a
specific task or action to perform, your success is easily measured and once
this action becomes an established behaviour requiring little thought or
effort, you have reached auto pilot! Eventually the microresolution becomes a
habit, something you no longer need to think about doing, you just do it.
Gem #2
No need to wait!
"A
microresolution’s time frame is today, not someday... payoff is immediate,
obvious, and sustainable forever. Unlike wannabe resolutions, where rewards are
promised sometime in the future, each microresolution carries its own payload –
what you pledge to do is what you get, as long as you follow through."-
Small Move, Big Change, page 23
This
aspect of Arnold’s rules is so incredible powerful! Instead of waiting weeks or
months to see the results of a behavioural change, her way allows for a daily
boast of ‘I did it! I can keep doing it!’ The benefits of keeping your daily
microresolutions are immediate and concrete! The successful progress one makes,
through a series of steps, to benefit a personal or professional change, is
easy to track and be successful. Self improvement becomes a series of stepping
stones or microresolutions and today’s success builds towards tomorrow’s goals.
Small
Move, Big Change is an easy, fast read, full of
straightforward and uncomplicated to follow ‘rules’ towards self improvement
success, each backed up with scientific studies and/or personal anecdotes . The
first half of the book provides the whys and hows for both past failures and
future successes, while the second half of the book is full of case studies of
success with many different microresolutions.
There
is no limit to what self improvement area you could tackle with Arnold’s seven
rules. I have easily applied her methodology towards my own changes and am
wowed by the results! So easy; so simple, and so very successful! Where do you
want to start?
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