BOOK SUMMARY 200 Power Cues
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Summary written by: Ryan Long
"Modern brain research puts us in touch with a far
more powerful understanding of the way that humans communicate than we’ve had
before. We are hard-wired to join up and communicate together through our
unconscious minds. Our evolutionary past necessitated this confluence of
communication, and we need to get in touch with it again in order to realize
the full power of influence an individual can have over a group."
- Power Cues, page 231
For
the past decade, my job has involved public speaking in a variety of forms.
Over the years, I have picked up tips on nonverbal cues to improve my ability
to deliver content but never so many aspects of communication and interaction
all in one place. Speaking coach Nick Morgan talks about using what he calls
power cues to make leadership more natural based on the way our brains read the
subtleties of communication. Gesture, voice resonance and tonality, the amount
of space you take up in a room, and storytelling can impact the influence you
have over your audience. It comes down to learning to control the nuances
of the communication dance to make it a little more elegant. The best speakers
make it look easy to engage on stage, show charisma and concern, and ignite
their followers with passion. In Power Cues, Morgan gives you tools
to dance the dance.
Each
chapter covers one of Morgan’s power cues, brain research behind it, how you
might apply it in your interactions with others, and field notes that sometimes
serve as a more in depth look at implementation.
The Golden Egg
Your Body Speaks to Me
"We
learn at a very early age that conversation is a pas de deux, a game that two
(or more) people play that involves breathing, winking, nodding, eye contact,
head tilts, hand gestures, and a whole series of subtle nonverbal signals that
help both parties communicate the with one another."- Power Cues, page 153
One
reason that our unconscious constantly reads the nonverbal cues of others goes
back to the idea of fight or flight. While survival is no longer at stake, our
brains still look for cues to identify friend or foe, who is in power, who is
aligned with us, and who might be telling the truth versus lying.
Unconsciously, we are always reading the people around us. Morgan identifies
this reading as our gut feeling or intuition.
From
the friend or foe perspective, friendly people will communicate with openness.
They’ll have wide, open eyes, turn their torso toward you, and use smiles and
nods. Conversely, someone that is disengaged communicates with crossed arms
that block the torso or bodies turned slightly away. Moving nearer someone
indicates friendliness or connection while moving away can indicate hostility
or simply that it’s time to end the conversation. People that are lying
tend to turn slightly away to create distance. More subtly, liars may have
their torso turned toward you but because they are trying to deceive you their
legs and feet may show what is really happening and be turned away.
Gem #1
Show Me to the Stage
"Few
of the places we speak have great sight lines, perfect acoustics, and
comfortable seating for the audience. We’re usually working with
less-than-prime conditions. So it helps to be ready for most of the
possibilities. In other words, be ready to answer the question, 'how will I use
this room to my advantage and work the crowd?' with minimal stress and
uncertainty."- Power Cues, page 168
While
only a fraction of communication happens from a stage, public speaking could be
the most important arena for some of the greatest influence that you have in
business. Morgan gives tips on how to prepare your message to connect with your
audience. He identifies four areas to keep in mind: influence, mimicry,activity,
and consistency. When you are asked to give a message, you have
some automatic influence because you have been identified as an expert on your
topic but it’s important to use your time to say what matters. There is power
in pauses, silence, and well thought out talking points. Mimicry is the act of
mirroring and getting your audience to mirror you. Giving the audience a word
or phrase to repeat is a way to build mimicry into your message. Activity
relates to the level of energy that you bring to the message and is often linked
to how easy it will be to get your audience to mimic you and show their
alignment. Consistency is controlling your emotions and energy throughout the
message or conversation. If something unexpected happens, it’s important not to
get flustered and let it throw off your words or body language. At the same
time, you should consider when to let your passion and energy flare up. A bit
of controlled inconsistency in that regard can have a huge impact.
Gem #2
Let Me Hear You Say It
"People
sort themselves out in terms of power very quickly after they meet, within
minutes and unconsciously, and they signal that power relationship to each
other with their low-frequency vocal patterns. It further shows that you can
shift the pattern if you can come on strong at the end or even work on your
vocal production to be powerful from the start."- Power Cues, page 126
One of
the most interesting and unexpected parts of the book was how sound, frequency,
and resonance could make a difference in leadership and communication. What
Morgan called a thin, nasally voice sounds weak. A thicker, deeper voice is
more acoustically pleasing; we want to listen to what that person has to say
because we align the sound with power. Breathing is a big part of voice. Morgan
says that most of us sit at a desk, which impedes proper breathing. If your
shoulders rise and fall, you aren’t filling your lungs properly. Rather, stand
up and take in a breath by expanding your belly outward and keeping your
shoulders still. Contract your abdominals as you exhale, pushing the breath
out. Practicing this type of breathing has health benefits and is the beginning
of finding your leadership voice.
Morgan
also reminds readers that eliminating speaking tics like over use of the catch
phrase “you know” or lots of “ums” helps develop a strong leadership voice.
Creating awareness of the tics is really the key. Videotaping yourself to count
your own tics or having someone watch you speak and count or point out the tics
are a couple of examples. If awareness isn’t enough, some people need the
incentive of donating to charity each time they let an “um” slip through.
While
I didn’t love the writing style of the author, I got a lot out of this book.
Regardless of how much your daily life or occupation requires you to deliver
messages to groups of people, we all constantly communicate with the people
around us. There’s no doubt that you can benefit from learning what power cues
will make your life as a leader easier and more natural
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