Get rid of your Black Holes
Are you aware of people and activities that are a sheer waste of
your time, and sap energy?
Identify these Black Holes and clear your way towards a more meaningful life
Identify these Black Holes and clear your way towards a more meaningful life
When the days just speed by and you are left
panicking about `the petty done, the undone vast', it is time to free yourself
from the Black Holes in your life things and people who sap your time, energy
and life force. Feel frustrated and empty at the end of the day? A sure sign
you are occupied with non-essentials, leaving you too tired for what clearly
matters most. For, if a day goes as per plan, it should leave you happy and
pleasantly exhausted, not enervated and frazzled.
The Black Holes that are a drag on your
physical, mental and spiritual energy could be in the form of people or
activities that waste time and energy, and gnaw at your centre of calm. These,
if given up, would free up pockets of your day that can be filled with so much
more meaningful stuff, leaving you happier and more fulfilled.
Just like the Black Holes which two recent
movies, Interstellar and The Theory of Everything revolved around. A Black Hole
is a place where gravity becomes such a powerful force that it overwhelms all
other forces of the Universe. Once inside, nothing can escape, not even light.
As we saw in Interstellar, even time falls prey to the force and slows down!
But astral Black Holes are events and structures formed far away, with little
or no impact on us. What about those we create for ourselves people and
objects that draw us in inexorably, not allowing an escape back into our own
sphere and time? Can you enumerate the black holes you get sucked into daily?
If you are evolved enough to have a sense of your purpose, and so of the value
of your time, you will be able to identify daily incidents that leave you
feeling empty.
More often than not it is mindless engagement
with people whose mental energies and preoccupations don't match ours. This can
be extremely taxing and unless you hit upon a topic of common concern and limit
the period of interaction, very frustrating too. However, most of the time we
are too polite to cut short, or give a direction to conversations. Negative
people with dire predictions are another soul-sapping source, as are those who
insist on controlling you as an extension of their own power field, trying to
tell you how to lead your own life better, and full of nuggets of their own
wisdom.
Wildly-raging emotions are another major
enervator, in fact a veritable soul sapper. An emotional rollercoaster ride can
leave you distracted and helpless like nothing else. Emotional turmoil and
agitation has the strength of pulling us into its vortex inexorably; all else
fades away and we are swamped by depression, stress and a sense of
hopelessness. Ever noticed, when in love, one can do little else but handle
one's fast changing emotional landscape? Some people specialise in controlling
others by playing with their emotions.They drag you into unnecessary emotional
whirlpools -advancing and retreating; lavishing attention, then ignoring;
talking intimately, then lapsing into silence -adopting controlling tactics
that surround and distract you. Once you understand the technique, you become
immune to it.
And then of course there are the myriad things
we do which drain away our energy and time. Sadly, we seem unaware of the toll
these take on our lives. The best of us are susceptible to such soul-sapping
activities checking our phone repeatedly, refreshing Facebook, worrying
endlessly, taking selfies of every moment rather than enjoying it, watching TV
aimlessly, procrastinating, hanging onto an unrequited love or bemoaning one
that ended... Guilty of any? I sure am! The good news is that the first step
towards ridding oneself of these spirit sappers is to identify them. Stop. Take
stock. Understand what makes you happy and then slowly start clearing your way
towards it by giving up on the life-sapping forces that weigh you down and
hamper onward movement.
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