10 Irresistible Traits of the
Smartest People
Positive psychology teaches us exceptional behaviors that draw
others to us like a fly to flypaper. Here are 10 to get you going.
Here are 10 useful hacks that I have personally studied and
applied for nearly 20 years in my business and personal life.
These positive traits are framed to teach you to be a magnet for
healthy relationships. Such attributes will impact how you communicate, and
point the way to more interpersonal effectiveness.
1. Be a person of remarkable honesty.
Be true to your character regardless of the outside pressures or
temptations to act otherwise. Be willing to accept the consequences of what you
consider to be right, at the core of your being. Don't let others dictate your
course. Through raw authenticity, you will take control of life and move
forward with confidence.
2. Be reliable.
People love a person who is trustworthy and makes decisions they
can count on. Be consistent with what you say you're going to do, and then do
it. Being a person of your word goes a long way.
3. Be humble.
A person who doesn't raise herself above others is someone who
can be trusted. She will gain the favor of others because her humility is not
only wise and honorable, but it leads to great knowledge and good judgment.
4. Be insightful.
Cultivating a discerning spirit will let you see things 10 steps
ahead of others. Your insights will be persuasive, so others will be drawn to
learn from your wisdom, which you will want to find time to impart. And when
you do, your gracious words will magnetically command the presence of others.
5. Be a good listener.
While some people see only one option, you take the higher road
to listen to advice and counsel from those further down the path of growth. You
leverage wise feedback to keep yourself out of trouble and steer you in the
right direction.
6. Be self-aware.
Self-awareness can alert you to what relationships to invest in
and what advisers to seek counsel from. If you're having lunch with someone who
is spreading malicious things about others, you may be next on his list. Walk
away. Also beware of groupthink, as it can quickly lead to a toxic bandwagon
that may send your reputation down the toilet.
7. Be intentional about change.
If you're convinced you can justify a certain behavior, like
greed or arrogance, you're like the frog in boiling water who doesn't know it's
being boiled alive. Break the cycle of behavior that damages relationships by
acquiring new knowledge first. When your blind spots are exposed, take massive
action to change that behavior with reckless abandon. You will gain new
followers and friends as a result.
8. Be a person of peace.
Troublemakers start fights and gossips break up friendships.
Rise above it all--slander, dissension, disputes, finger-pointing--all things
that will trouble the heart and leave you in a reactionary stress mode. Be cool-tempered
instead of quick-tempered, patient and slow to anger, and wise enough to keep
calm and understand the circumstances around you. Be an ambassador for
promoting peace.
9. Be smart and thoughtful when you speak.
There's a saying from an old wise king that goes like this:
"Words satisfy the mind as much as fruit does the stomach; good talk is as
gratifying as a good harvest." So much conflict, confusion, and
misunderstanding comes from our words. Be careful about what you speak, and
don't talk out of both sides of your mouth. Instead, give good and sound
advice, and have the other person's best interest in mind. You'll get a lot
more in return.
10. Be a learner and show interest in the wisdom of others.
This is what initiates the best conversations--learning about
what other people do, how they do it, why they do it. People love to talk about
themselves, and smart people let them! So be the person who shows up with the
humble gesture of "I want to learn from you."
BY MARCEL SCHWANTES
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