WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE MATURE?
What are the signs of
maturity? Do you need to work to acquire maturity or does it come naturally as
you grow up?
People shouting at and over
each other on news channels rather than engaging in intelligent discussions,
horrific incidents of road rage, and increased instances of public shaming,
indicate a dangerous dive in maturity levels. When politics and blame games
take over and we close our eyes to real problems, that's indeed a sign of an
immature Nation.
While the world respects us
for spiritual quotient, are we endangering our own legacy by setting aside
maturity and far-sightedness in favour of puerility and short-term benefits?
Rather than take responsibility for our actions, we are happier pulling others down and bent upon proving our own worth and correctness.
Rather than take responsibility for our actions, we are happier pulling others down and bent upon proving our own worth and correctness.
Each of us has a
responsibility to attain maturity and self-awareness as we grow up. Some mature
early in life; others never mature, even as they age.Yes, maturity is not a
natural consequence of growing up. Age cannot guarantee maturity. What can
ensure that you achieve a mature outlook to life is a willingness to learn
from your experiences, having the flexibility to change and adapt, and the
large-heartedness to respect the differences and viewpoints of others.
Maturity can be learned
rather than acquired. It is a discipline rather than a trait. It is a sign of
intelligence when you learn to respond to your environment in a mature and
responsible manner.
A mature person knows when
to stop arguing. She understands that trying to win arguments with those you
love is self-defeating. She respects others' points of view but goes by her own
considered ones.She knows that the journey is to be enjoyed and lived, while
the destination is just another place to reach, rest awhile and then move on.
She does not indulge in comparisons and is at peace with herself.
A mature person will take
responsibility for his actions rather than blame others. He will take a
far-sighted view of things and act in a consid ered, rather than a spontaneous
manner. He understands that he is not the centre of the Universe, and most
people do not act to hurt, upset or take revenge on him; they have their own
considerations and triggers. He is non-judgemental and learns to accept people
as they are and brings change only within himself.
I read a beautiful line
“Emotional maturity means being centered in yourself instead of being selfcentered“.
The author Katies Hoban, a data scientist, speaks of three Rs: Responsibility.
Responsiveness. Resilience. So, drawing from the power and resources within
yourself, maturity is the art of being responsible for your actions, being
sensitive and considerate towards others and having the ability to change and
adapt to circumstances.
An emotionally-mature
person is always adding value to himself and those around. Learning and
developmental activities form a key part of his daily activities and goals. He is
able to understand and manage his own emotions. He maintains a calm exterior
and understands that vision, planning and empathy are critical tools of a life
well lived. You are emotionally mature when you take the responsibility for
your own happiness; when you plan your own goals and define your own success,
when you develop great coping skills, and adopt a tolerant, empathic view of
others.Without being delusional you are optimistic in a realistic manner and
take charge of your own life.
Here are a few interesting
definitions of maturity from here and there... “Maturity is not when we start
speaking big things; it is when we start understanding small things.“
“I used to walk into a room
full of people and wonder if they liked me...now I look around and wonder if I
like them.“
“Maturity comes when you
stop making excuses, and start making changes.“
“Maturity is the capacity
to endure uncertainty.“
“Maturity begins when we
are content to feel we are right about something, without feeling the necessity
to prove someone else is wrong.“
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vinitadawra
nangia
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