10 Qualities of People With High
Emotional Intelligence
If you want to know if you have high
emotional intelligence, here are a few tips to guide you along the way.
Have you ever wondered why some people seem to have an
unlimited amount of success in both
their personal and professional lives? It
could be because they possess high emotional intelligence.
According
to Psychology
Today, "Emotional intelligence is the ability
to identify and manage your own emotions and the emotions of others." This
usually involves:
·
emotional awareness, which includes the
ability to identify your own emotions as well as those of others;
·
the ability to harness emotions and apply
them to tasks such as problem solving;
·
the ability to manage your emotions, such as
being able to calm down when you're upset.
If you want to know if you have a high
emotional intelligence (EI) or want to work on strengthening your EI in order
to succeed in life and your career, here are 10 qualities that people with high
EI all share.
1. They're not perfectionists.
Being
a perfectionist can get in the way of completing tasks
and achieving goals since it can lead to having trouble getting started,
procrastinating, and looking for the right answer when there isn't one. This is
why people with EI aren't perfectionists. They realize that perfection doesn't
exist and push forward. If they make a mistake, they'll make adjustments and
learn from it. This is one I personally have to work on daily as I tend to be a
little more perfectionist.
2. They know how to balance work and play.
Working 24/7 and not taking care of yourself
adds unnecessary stress and health problems to your life. Because of this,
people with EI know when it's time to work and when to play. For example, if
they need to disconnect from the world for a couple of hours, or even an entire
weekend, they will because they need the time to unplug to reduce the stress
levels.
3. They embrace change.
Instead
of dreading change, emotionally intelligent people realize that change is a part
of life. Being afraid of change hinders success, so
they adapt to the changes around them and always have a plan in place should
any sort of change occur.
4. They don't get easily distracted.
People with high EI have the ability to pay
attention to the task at hand and aren't easily distracted by their
surroundings, such as text or random thought.
5. They're empathetic.
Daniel
Goleman, psychologist and author of Focus:
The Hidden Driver of Excellence, told The
Huffington Post that empathy is one of the five
components of emotional intelligence. In fact, being able to relate to others,
show compassion, and take the time to help someone are all crucial components
of EI. Additionally, being empathic makes people with EI curious about other
people and and leads them to ask lots of questions whenever they meet someone
new.
6. They know their strengths and weaknesses.
Emotionally
intelligent people know what they're good at and what they're not so great at.
They've not just accepted
their strengths and weaknesses; they
also know how to leverage their strengths and weaknesses by working with the
right people in the right situation.
7. They're self-motivated.
Were
you that ambitious and hard-working kid who was motivated to achieve a
goal--and not just because there was a reward at the end? Being a real go-getter, even at a young age, is another quality possessed by
people with EI.
8. They don't dwell in the past.
People with high EI don't have the time to
dwell in the past because they're too busy contemplating the possibilities that
tomorrow will bring. They don't let past mistakes consume them with negativity.
They don't hold grudges. Both add stress and prevent us from moving forward.
9. They focus on the positive.
Emotionally
intelligent people would rather devote their time and energy to solving a
problem. Instead of harping on the negative, they look at the
positive and what they have control over.
Furthermore, they also spend their time with other positive people and not the
people who constantly complain.
10. They set boundaries.
While people with high EI may seem like
pushovers because of their politeness and compassion, they actually have the
power to establish boundaries. For example, they know how to say no to others.
The reason? It prevents them from getting overwhelmed, burned out, and stressed
because they have too many commitments. Instead, they're aware that saying
no frees them up from completing previous commitments.
BY JOHN
RAMPTON
http://www.inc.com/john-rampton/10-qualities-of-people-with-high-emotional-intelligence.html?cid=em01014week03a
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