5 Ways Mentally Strong People Deal With Rejection
Rejection hurts, but it doesn't have to hold you back.
Ever notice
how being turned down stops some people from trying again, while others bounce
back from rejection stronger than before? Everyone experiences the sting of
rejection, but mentally strong people use that pain to grow stronger and become
better.
Whether you
were excluded from a social engagement, or you were passed up for a promotion,
rejection hurts. The way you choose to respond to rejection, however, could
determine the entire course of your future.
Here are five
ways mentally strong people overcome rejection:
1. They Acknowledge Their Emotions
Rather than
suppress, ignore, or deny the pain, mentally strong people acknowledge their
emotions. They admit when they're embarrassed, sad, disappointed, or
discouraged. They have confidence in their ability to deal with uncomfortable
emotions head-on, which is essential to coping with their discomfort in a
healthy manner.
Whether you've
been stood up by a date or turned down for a promotion, rejection stings.
Trying to minimize the pain by convincing yourself--or someone else--it was
"no big deal" will only prolong your pain. The best way to deal
with uncomfortable emotions is to face them head-on.
2. They View Rejection as Evidence
They're Pushing the Limits
Mentally
strong people know that rejection serves as proof that they're living life to
the fullest. They expect to be rejected sometimes, and they're not afraid to go
for it, even when they suspect it may be a long shot.
If you never
get rejected, you may be living too far inside your comfort zone. You can't be
sure you're pushing yourself to your limits until you get turned down every now
and then. When you get rejected for a project, passed up for a job, or turned
down by a friend, you'll know you're putting yourself out there.
3. They Treat Themselves With
Compassion
Rather than
think, "You're so stupid for thinking you could do that," mentally
strong people treat themselves with compassion. They respond to negative
self-talk with a kinder, more affirming message.
Whether you
got dumped by your long-term love or blindsided by a recent firing,
beating yourself up will only keep you down. Speak to yourself like a trusted friend.
Drown out your harsh inner critic by repeating helpful mantras that will keep you mentally strong.
4. They Refuse to Let Rejection
Define Them
Mentally
strong people don't make sweeping generalizations when they're rejected. If one
company turns them down for a job, they don't declare themselves incompetent.
Or, if they get rejected by a single love interest, they don't conclude
they're unlovable. They keep rejection in proper perspective.
One person's
opinion, or one single incident, should never define who you are. Don't let
your self-worth depend upon other people's opinions of you. Just because
someone else thinks something about you, doesn't mean it's true.
5. They Learn From Rejection
Mentally
strong people ask themselves, "What did I gain from this?" so they
can learn from rejection. Rather than simply tolerate the pain, they turn it
into an opportunity for self-growth. With each rejection, they grow stronger
and become better.
Whether you
learn about areas in your life that need improvement, or you simply recognize
that being turned down isn't awful as you imagined, rejection can be a good
teacher. Use rejection as an opportunity to move forward with more wisdom.
BY AMY MORIN
http://www.inc.com/travis-bradberry/9-phrases-smart-people-never-use-in-conversation.html
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