8 Crucial Mistakes to
Avoid When Going After Your Goals
Achieving goals with ease is an art that many people are yet to
master. If you are one of these people, you could be making one of these
crucial mistakes. Take note.
1. Don't take score too often.
Dreams and projects can take time to grow. If you're constantly
and obsessively checking for evidence that your desires are on their way to you
and everything is going precisely to plan, you may end up feeling impatient and
frustrated, which will in turn mean you are not in a good emotional place to
continue taking action with enjoyment and ease.
Of course you may need to check in with your progress towards
your goals and revise your plan every now and then, but do it purposefully and
spaced at healthy intervals.
2. Don't get distracted by others.
If you've ever swam laps in a public pool, you will know how
tempting it can be to get distracted by someone in the next lane swimming who
is swimming faster than you.
Everyone has their own unique purpose and path to walk in this
world, so try to stay focused on your own lane -- don't worry too much about
what other people are working on or whether they're seemingly making more
progress than you. You are doing things in your own time and in your own way,
and that's exactly how it's supposed to be.
3. Don't forget to celebrate along the way.
Most people reserve celebrations for when they've finally
reached the finish line of a goal or dream.
There's absolutely no reason you can't celebrate each baby step
you take along the way. In fact, taking a moment to celebrate your incremental
accomplishments is a sure-fire way to boost your spirits and replenish your
well of motivation.
4. Don't put your happiness on hold.
Many of us put our happiness on hold until a mythical day in the
future when we will be slimmer, wealthier, more successful, much-adored and
have ticked off a suitable number of goals. This is problematic for two
reasons.
Firstly, this day of finally "having it all" doesn't
exist -- it's not an attainable reality, as you will always be giving birth to
new desires and goals, and therefore the goal posts will always be moving.
Secondly, it's critical to enjoy the journey towards your goals
because the journey is all there really is -- the journey is life itself. This
very moment that is happening right now is the only time you get to truly
experience life itself in all of its beauty, power and glory.
5. Don't try to force your actions.
There is a big difference between taking inspired action in the
flow, and exerting huge amounts of effort to force yourself into action with
gritted teeth.
Approach even the smallest of tasks with an attitude of service,
love, care and enjoyment, and you will be amazed at how effortlessly things
will begin to unfold before your eyes. Better still, at the end of the day you
will feel energized, rather than drained.
6. Don't loose sight of the bigger picture.
Have you ever started out on the journey towards a goal, project
or dream feeling hugely inspired and excited, only to loose steam and throw in
the towel?
It could be because you've forgotten about your big picture
reason for taking action -- the vision that you're working towards, and the
sweet feelings of joy, fulfillment or accomplishment you will experience in abundance
once you've finished.
Keep reminders of your bigger vision close by. When you loose
focus, pause to reflect on what it would feel like to have already achieved
your goal or dream right now. Try to embody this feeling for a few
minutes, and let it spark a new wave of motivation inside of you.
7. Don't hide in shadow work.
Shadow work is the type of work that keeps us feeling really
busy, but doesn't really achieve much -- like checking your Inbox incessantly
or reading too many posts on social media.
Shadow work is addictive because it feels much safer and easier
than facing up to the daunting task of doing the real, powerful, sometimes
scary work that will get us closer to our goals and dreams. But if you never
take real action, you will never get to experience the changes you desire.
Try scheduling in a block of time to complete your most
important, valuable tasks before allowing yourself to have a break with shadow
work.
8. Don't feel you have to go it alone.
Humans are naturally social creatures but many of us have been
conditioned to avoid situations where we have to expose our true feelings, be
open-hearted or ask for help.
It's perfectly okay to reach out to others and ask them for
advice, hands-on help or even just moral support -- and the more that you have
the courage to do so, the more you will inspire others around you to do the
same.
Elyse
Gorman
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/elyse-gorman/making-goals-mistakes_b_7113478.html?ncid=newsltushpmg00000003&ir=India
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