5 ways to move on from an argument
We all have our own ways of moving on from an
argument. While some of us like to sleep over it, others like to reach a
conclusion as soon as possible and move on. Whatever your way, the important
thing is to acknowledge the argument, and deal with it in a way your
relationship suffers the least damage. If you’ve ever struggled to move on from
an argument, here are five ways to acknowledge the hurt and guilt and get over
it.
COOL OFF
There is no need to rush into having that last word
or apologise, till you are ready. Take your time. Cool off before you regret
saying whatever comes to your mind. Take time to think things through and then
address the problem. But do address it later.
ACCEPT THAT IT HAPPENED
Be it an argument with a friend, a showdown with a
colleague or a fight with a loved one, skipping the apology and starting over
is not a good idea. Acknowledging the argument and letting the other person
know that you understand where their hurt and anger is coming from goes a long
way in dealing with things positively.
NO DEEP-FREEZE PLEASE
It’s easy to simply tune this person out till the
anger goes away. Deep-freezing our emotions is a defence mechanism for dealing
with hurt. But it’s not the best method. The anger or hurt only pents up inside
making you bitter along the way.
APOLOGISE
Life is not an ego game. It does not matter who is in
the wrong, if hurtful words were exchanged, apologise for the same first, and
then come to the issue.
WORK ON TRIGGERS
Circle back to what triggered the argument and look
at ways to completely eliminate the issue. But in the meantime, also work on
the triggers that lead to the argument.
Ainee Nizami
TL 16DEC18
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