You May Not Realize It, But These 6 Small Habits Can Block Your Way To
Success
There’s a historian by the
name of Will Durant who summarized an idea of Aristotle’s as, “We
are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.” With that being said, often times your
habits determine your success—or form road blocks. If you can find a way to
rise above habits that are hindering your success, you will find that you will
be able to reach the potential you’ve always had.
These six self-destructive
habits are a good place to start making some changes:
1. Checking your phone during
a conversation
Think about the last time you
were having a conversation with someone and they picked up their phone to check
a text message or glance over when a notification popped up. It’s a really big
turn off when you feel you aren’t being listened to. And it’s likely that while
distracted, you’re probably missing some important information. When you’re
having a conversation, focus all your attention on the conversation. By putting
your phone away, you will find that the conversations you have will be more
enjoyable when you fully immerse yourself in them.
It’s an out of sight, out of
mind type of thing. If you can’t see it, there’s a good possibility that you’ll
forget all about it for the time being. By doing this, you’ll find that the
conversations you have will be more enjoyable when you fully immerse yourself
in them.
2.
Dwelling on failures from your past
When you mess up it’s hard to not be really critical of
yourself. You get those feelings of hating yourself, not feeling good enough,
inadequate, etc. It’s normal to feel like that from time to time, but it won’t
do you any good to provoke self-hatred by continuously dwelling on those
mistakes. Try to train your mind to look at your mistake(s) as an opportunity
to walk away with a lesson rather than beating yourself up and swimming in
negative thoughts about yourself.
Instead of dwelling, start asking yourself questions about what
led you to make the decision you made. It’s beneficial to adopt the habit of
asking yourself questions about your failure rather than dwelling on the
failure itself.
3.
Keeping relationships with toxic people
Toxic people tend to make their mark in our lives and manage to
stay there. It doesn’t matter where you work, there’s always going to be
someone that just really gets under your skin. You may find that your skin
cringes with even the thought of this person. By letting this person influence
you to the point where it affects your performance and mood at work, you’re
hindering your success. When you feel these thoughts flooding into your mind,
replace them with thinking about how grateful you are for someone else in your
life. It doesn’t do you any good to think about the people who don’t matter
when there are plenty of people out there who deserve your attention.
4.
Comparing yourself to others
Not doing this can be really hard, I know. You may find yourself
doing it sometimes without even realizing it. You lose control over your
happiness when you compare yourself to those around you. When you’ve
accomplished something that makes you feel good and satisfied, don’t allow
another person’s opinion and/or their accomplishments take away those good
feelings you have. It’s nearly impossible to not let what others think of you
get into your head, but over time you can learn to quickly remove that
negativity and keep moving forward.
During these times, it’s important to remind yourself that your
self-worth is something that comes from the inside. Keep this in mind—you’re
never as bad as someone says you are.
5.
Gossiping
They’re everywhere, you can’t escape them. People who love to
gossip get a ‘high’ from other people’s short-comings and failures. It may seem
tempting at first to engage with others and talk about someone else’s
personal/professional life, but after awhile you’ll start to realize that you
feel really awful about hurting other people. Instead of doing that, pay
attention and talk about the positive things going on around you. People are
very interesting, and there is so much you can learn from them. Have you ever
noticed that a person who compulsively gossips is rarely happy with their own
life?
6.
Being distracted by notification pop-ups
It’s very hard to stay focused every time a notification pops up
on your phone or email. Each time your phone or computer makes a noise, it
grabs your attention and causes your productivity to drop. Getting
notifications multiple times throughout your day may make you feel like you’re
being productive, but that’s far from the truth. Every time you get distracted,
it’s taking your attention away from the things that need to be done. A task
that should take you only a few hours can easily turn into an all-day affair if
you’re not mindful of how distracting it can be.
To eliminate this, turn off your pop-up notifications while
you’re working. Set certain times during the day when you check your phone and
email. For example, when you get to work in the morning, when you take your
lunch break, and then again right before you head out to go home for the day.
You’ll start to realize how much more productive you are this way.
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