5 Habits That All Emotionally Intelligent
People Have In Common
What does it really mean to
be emotionally intelligent? Many of us can say we’re in touch with our emotions
but how does this translate into a relatable and social intelligence towards
ourselves and other people?
The idea is that emotional
intelligence is not only recognising and identifying with our own emotions, but
also having the capacity to handle other people’s feelings in an empathetic and
astute way. This is a crucial way to build long, lasting relationships with
those around us while managing our own emotions in a healthy manner.
With this in mind, here are 5
habits that are identifiable with an emotionally intelligent person.
1.
They Know Asking For Help Is A Strength Not A Weakness
Emotional intelligence is
essentially down to a sense of self-confidence. While many people feel asking
for help is a sign of weakness, it’s really just a mindset of insecurity and
potential judgement of others.
Someone who possess emotional
intelligence knows that they have an understanding of their own strengths and
limitations. They understand that while having self-confidence, they realise
that they don’t necessarily know everything there is to know and aren’t afraid
to admit this. Sourcing information to bridge the information gap and
collaborating with others is seen as a strength and a chance to grow as a
person rather than a weakness.
2. They Are
Able To Deal With Communication Problems In A Calm Way
When we are having communication problems with people—whether
loved ones, colleagues or even strangers—it can be frustrating, leading to
lashing out or losing our cool. Being able to stay calm and patient when
facing communication challenges is a sure sign of emotional intelligence.
The ability to read social cues is key. Calmly being able to
redirect or pivot the approach of their message when it clearly isn’t getting
across is showing empathy towards the needs of their audience. They care, not
only about the message they’re trying to convey, but about other people having
a clear understanding.
3. They Are
Able To Discuss Conflict Clearly And Objectively
Arguments can bring out the worst in people and bring up
difficult emotions. It can cause feelings of frustration, feeling like you’re
not being understood and goes against our need to be accepted and
always right.
With emotional intelligence comes the need to be understood
without being patronising, condescending or angry. It’s the ability to explain
a conflict in a clear and objective way. Emotionally intelligent people have
self-awareness of their own emotions, they are able to self-manage these
emotions, be empathetic towards where other people are coming from in their
argument, and be good at handling the others’ emotions too.
4. They Are Able
To Deal With Negative Feedback In A Positive Way
While getting negative feedback can bring out our insecurities,
emotionally intelligent people are able to deal with it self-confidently
without getting defensive.
Focusing on the facts and keeping a level head allows their
emotions to stay in check meaning they are more likely to see criticism as
growth rather than damage to their self-worth. This isn’t to say emotionally
intelligent people don’t experience negative emotions such as frustration when
hearing criticism, but they are able to process them quickly and climb out of
their own perspective to meet someone else’s.
5. They Are
Able To Embrace Failure
Self-confidence is key when it comes to dealing with setbacks.
The importance of self-confidence is that it will keep you afloat when life
throws you into the deep-end and emotionally intelligent people know this.
Having this self-confidence is how emotionally intelligent
people deal with failures. They realise that assessing troubling situations in
an objective way without harsh self-judgement and lashing out is paramount to
picking themselves up, gaining strength, taking on board what they’ve learnt
from the situation and moving on.
Conclusion
Learning more about our emotions and those of others can propel
us far in life. Being more stable in our thoughts and perspectives can get us
through hard situations and build more lasting relationships with others and
ourselves.
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