How do I become more
self-disciplined and avoid procrastinating?
I am fascinated by today’s technology. We can automate
nearly everything.
We automate businesses, we automate manufacturing, we
automate processes, we automate our work, and we automate our professional and
personal life too.
Simply put, automation is a set of rules that
reduce our effort to constantly doing the work, at least reduce the need for
regular decision making.
. . .
WORDPRESS THEME BUILDING
I spent a big portion of my time in the past few weeks
building a new WordPress theme for my own blog. Sorry if you’re not familiar
with it, but there is a reason why I’m talking about it here.
And that’s the reason I wrote this too. There is a line
of PHP codes we use frequently in the process of theme building:
If have posts, show posts; else, show “sorry, there is no
post here”
Of course, this is not the exact line of codes, but this
is what it basically means. If the page has any post, show the post, if there
is none, show the message. This automates the whole process of blogging and
plays a huge role that forms WordPress (and of course this blog).
And it makes me wonder, what if we use a similar
rule for our mind? To make our habits stick, harness our self-control, and get
more things done.
. . .
THE IF-THEN STATEMENT
In life, we have multiple goals that we wanted to
achieve.
·
To lose weight and get fit.
·
To complete reading or writing a book
·
To finish a huge design project
All of them require us to put in a certain amount of
(usually huge) effort and time to work on them deliberately. And often, we
didn’t stick with it, at least not long enough for us to see a desirable
outcome. Then most people will start blaming external incidents that challenged
them from getting things done, or worst, blaming themselves.
Rather blaming your lack of discipline, self-control, or
willpower, build series of rules using the if-then statement for your
behaviors:
If X, then Y.
From one study, they found that 91% of people who used
if-then planning stuck to an exercise program opposed to 39% who didn’t. But
it’s not just for fitness, it works for every change you are looking to
incorporate into your life.
The technique is simple, choose an event and then choose
an action to take after the event. For example:
·
When I get off from bed, I meditate.
·
When I get off from work, I hit the gym.
·
When I finish this reading, I start writing.
The if-then statement works because it implants a trigger
into our subconscious mind to carry out the following actions without much
decision making required. And there are a few techniques I found to make the if-then
statement works even better.
1) Make the first action (the if) as simple
as possible. One of the biggest challenges in
achieving anything significant is that often, we never start. The same works
here. To make the if-then statement works, you need to make yourif simple and small, nearly effortless. The best to suggest is use your
existing routine or habit as the trigger if you have no simpler action to build
on.
2) Celebrate when you completed the then. Allow yourself to feel good in the process.
Celebrate when you have completed your planned action regardless how small it
is. Associate it with positive emotions will help you to crave more of it in
the future.
3) When you start to think, stop, and start doing. Even when we have our if-then statement laid out,
we will still spend a time to decide about it sometimes, especially when the
behavior is new, or somewhat unpleasant. But the core of the if-then statement
is about automation and getting rid of decision-making. So, stop thinking
whether your should do it or not do it, how to do it better, what if there are
mistakes. Start doing it instead.
“In life, employing If-Then implementation plans has
helped adults and children control their own behavior more successfully than
they had imagined possible.
If we have these well-rehearsed plans in place, the
self-control response will become automatically triggered by the stimulus to
which it is connected. (‘If I approach the fridge, then I will not open the
door’; ‘If I see a bar, then I will cross to the other side of the street’; ‘If
my alarm goes off at 7 a.m., then I will go to the gym’).
The more often we rehearse and practice implementation
plans, the more automatic they become, taking the effort out of effortful
control.”
— Walter Mischel from The
Marshmallow Test
. . .
HARNESS SELF-CONTROL WITH A BACKUP PLAN
One of the best techniques to make a new behavior stick
is by stacking them on an existing habit. With that mean, your previous action
becomes the trigger for your next action (new behavior). That’s the core of the
if-then technique.
The if-then statement is not only used to strengthen the
new behaviors or actions butcan also be used to break our bad habits and act
as a backup plan if we miss our newly planned routine.
·
If I eat that cheesecake, then I will need to
run for 10 km.
·
If I miss my reading routine in the morning,
then I will do it in the evening.
·
If I can’t call mom in the morning today, I
will do it immediately after work.
Most people failed to nurture a new behavior
because they don’t know what to do after they missed it and fall out from the
plan. Rather blaming the responsibility on the external events that you can’t
control, plan ahead. Build an if-then plan to strengthen your self-control.
Dean
Yeong,
FROM QUORA
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