PERSONAL SPECIAL ..............................How to Use Positivity to Tackle Negativity

PERSONAL SPECIAL How to Use Positivity to Tackle Negativity

You must be from another planet if you have never come across negative people. You obviously know people who are always complaining about one thing or the other. They never seem to see anything good in life, the environment or other people and objects.

Everywhere you look

Negative people are everywhere. It may be your mother, father, sibling, workmate, boss, teacher or any other person you know. Some of them you don’t know but you will interact 

with them. Think of that querulous passenger who makes it difficult for other travelers in the train by shouting and talking endlessly about how bad life is.

Reflect on your reactions to negativity

It is obvious that negative people are not about to go away. What is important is that you know how to deal them. How are you doing it today? Is there a right way of dealing with negative people? How do you deal with all the negative energy that such people leave behind?

Let’s face it. Each of us has over the time devised a way to handle such people. Is your method effective? There are people who get angry when they encounter pessimists and sadists. At this point, all you want is to whip the negative guy and stuff their mouths with cotton wool! However, this is fighting negativity by being negative.

Some of us feel sorry for ourselves. Why do we always have to encounter people who radiate evil and gloom? Now, that feeling is natural. But the problem begins when you allow such emotions to overwhelm you and determine how you are going to react.

A little compassion can help

However, there are other ways to deal with negativity without allowing yourself to become negative. You can choose to be compassionate towards the undesirable person especially because they are going through a hard time that you and others may not understand.

There are many people who feed on your compassion and eventually overturn their misfortune. Remember such a person is already going through a tough experience and being kind to them is better than castigating them. Besides, when you nurture and encourage negativity you get sucked up into it.

Tempering the negative with the positive

It is for this reason that you must learn to handle negativity with positivity. The beginning point is always your thoughts and emotions. Did you know that sometimes dealing with negativity requires that you simply walk away or pretend the negative situation does not exist in the first place?

The following are positive approaches to handle people who ooze negativity:

1. Wish them quick recovery from their misery

You see, most negative people rarely receive sympathy; they are condemned and sneered at. Consequently, when you become empathetic they are likely to get disarmed and change their attitudes. You may even get some words of gratitude from such an individual.

2. Seek to know whether they have a problem

This is effective because it gives them a listening ear thus taking off their burden. Can you remember a time when such genuine interest in your situation helped you? However, be careful not to get caught up in a trap where you are dragged down into negative talk.

3. Tell them to avoid taking the problem too seriously

This is especially important when you know what is troubling a person. Asking them to take the foot off the pedal may help them to rethink their reaction to the negative situation. Do this with a smile and the change you desire is more likely to come.

4. Express kindness and love towards the negative person

No one wants to think they are alone when facing a bad situation. When you express love and understanding towards such a person, you remind them that someone appreciates them despite their predicament and this may change their disposition.

5. Don’t allow yourself to be sucked into the negative mentality

There are moments when you must be assertive and refuse to be dragged into the mud of pessimism. If you feel that your positive attitude is at risk, politely inform the other person that you will not play their game.

6. Ask them whether they would be comfortable sharing their feelings with others

Such a suggestion would catch such a person unawares and make them think seriously about the effect of their negativity. This works especially when you catch the person in the act as it were.

7. Inform negative people that their actions are demoralizing others

Here you face a person directly and let them know that they are poisoning the environment. However, you need to be polite and constructive when doing this; otherwise the negative person will retreat and become defensive.

8. Urge them to think of happy moments

Remembering something that brings happy memories is likely to dissipate negativity. Make sure you are empathetic and genuinely concerned when you take this action. If you know the person personally, you can even cite a specific instance to bring a smile to their faces.

9. Urge them to smile

The mind does not differentiate a fake smile from a genuine one. When the person undergoing stress smiles the heart begins to appreciate the good things of life and negativity dissipates gradually. It is, however, important to be wise in timing when to tell this person to smile so that they don’t think you are mocking them and their situations.

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