· BOOK SUMMARY 42 Willpower
pt. 2
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Summary written by: Alyssa Burkus
“Self-control is a vital strength and a key to success in
life.”
Willpower, pg. 13
Ever
have a goal that seemed out of reach? If you are like 99% of the people I
know, you have tackled a change, resolution or new self-help project that
became too difficult to see through to the end. If those goals are still
on your life to do list, Willpower can help you reach them, by
teaching you the physical and mental elements necessary for developing the
self-control you need to keep you on that path. While I am not convinced that
willpower is the greatest human strength (I would argue our
capacity for compassion would top any list), I do agree that strengths in
willpower and self-control are key for anyone who wants to set and achieve a
significant goal.
The
authors of this book, Roy Baumeister and John Tierney, have spent a lifetime
analyzing willpower and its effects on human life. Although scientific, with
numerous studies referenced throughout, the structure and approach are easy to
follow, and the reader is left with a workable set of approaches for improving
willpower and self-control.
Golden Egg
Influence Great Outcomes
“Exercising self-control in one area seemed to improve
all areas of life.”
Willpower, pg.
136
The
authors provide extensive examples of how those who were able to develop skills
to master self-control in one aspect of their lives (such as exercise), led to
abilities in all other aspects (e.g., they smoked less, drank less, kept their
homes cleaner, etc.). Building a strong foundation of strength in
self-control gives us the ability to exert willpower in many aspects of our
lives. This becomes particularly important if the goals you set require
persistence and dedication, as it can be too easy to get off track.
GEM #1
Boost Willpower and Self-control
“To promise not to do a thing is the surest way in the
world to make the body want to go and do that very thing.”
Mark Twain, as quoted in Willpower, pg. 234
Our
minds can play physical tricks on us, as felt in the cravings for the very
thing we are trying to eliminate from our life. The authors provide
extensive evidence connecting our body’s sugar (glucose) levels to our ability
to exert self-control. If your glucose levels are low, so is your
willpower; plus, you deplete glucose by exerting willpower as well.
“Even just expecting to exert self-control makes
the body hungry for sweets.” (pg. 51)
So how
to overcome what might seem like a losing battle? The authors recommend
planning for a period that requires strong self-control, particularly in
ensuring you manage the physical impact of willpower exertions.
Some
of their tips include:
– Small,
frequent (healthy) meals to “feed the beast” with low glycemic foods (they
mention vegetables, nuts, raw fruits (apples, blueberries, pears) cheese, fish,
meats, olive oil and other “good fats” to regulate your blood sugar levels.
– Ensure adequate sleep – “by resting, we reduce the body’s demand for glucose, and we also improve its overall ability to make use of glucose in the bloodstream.” (p. 59)
– Try small physical self-control routines (like using proper posture, or always using “yes” instead of “yup”) which can strengthen your brain for bigger tasks, like dieting or quitting smoking
– Tackle only one change at a time. You don’t have enough willpower to handle multiple changes.
– Defer the reward – tell yourself “not now, maybe later” is sometimes enough to trick your brain into avoiding it altogether.
– Ensure adequate sleep – “by resting, we reduce the body’s demand for glucose, and we also improve its overall ability to make use of glucose in the bloodstream.” (p. 59)
– Try small physical self-control routines (like using proper posture, or always using “yes” instead of “yup”) which can strengthen your brain for bigger tasks, like dieting or quitting smoking
– Tackle only one change at a time. You don’t have enough willpower to handle multiple changes.
– Defer the reward – tell yourself “not now, maybe later” is sometimes enough to trick your brain into avoiding it altogether.
GEM #2
Routine and Good Habits
“ . . . their willpower gradually got stronger, so it was
less readily depleted. . . (a)s long as you were motivated to do some kind of
exercise, your overall willpower could improve.”
Willpower, pg.
137
The
example above talks about exercise but it applies to any scenario where you
need to exert self-control. Doing so can help build willpower that can
apply to all aspects of your life. Good habits of exercise and moderate
portion control, for example, can become routine and no longer requires
exertion of willpower to maintain the habit.
“If you struggle with temptation and then give in, you’re
still depleted because you struggled. Giving in does not replenish the
willpower you have already expended.” (pg.
243)
The
authors cover key willpower drains such as procrastination and dieting, and
many of the elements they cover are common stumbling blocks for anyone trying
to make their resolutions or commitments stick.
The
book focuses primarily on the individual’s perspective in conquering
self-control, but it would be interesting to consider it from a marketing or
manager’s perspective – what do you need to do to break down someone’s
willpower (e.g., for impulse purchases) or motivate them to stick to tough
tasks to reach significant goals?
So
. . . find that New Year’s resolution or lifelong goal that you want to
achieve, and get started! With Willpower, you have the
framework, strategies and tools you need to accomplish any of those major goals
on your list. Just make sure you only tackle one goal at a time.
Oh, and bring a snack.
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