BEWARE, IT'S THE
ALPHA WOMAN
Just
like Alpha men, women with strong behavioural streak in public life called
as Alpha female are an accepted phenomenon
in the . These are overly
ambitious,
powerful women who do not mind doing that something extra
to ascertain their position in the public or
private life. These women aren't
afraid to ask for what they want and are
completely unapologetic about
themselves.
But in their pursuit of grandeur and glory , do they
walk past
that thin line of morality and become what
can be termed as the new
Alpha
female?
IT
COULD BE ANYONE...
Unfortunately
, these power-driven women with strong sense of self and
volatility become too hot to handle for
others. When these women use
aggression,
intimidation and a domineering nature, men fall into their play
quite easily. “If the symptoms turn severe,
I would call it a borderline
personality
disorder with severe narcissistic traits,“ says clinical psychologist
Dr Varkha Chulani.
Distinguishing
such a woman by her day-to-day behaviour is very difficult.
It
could be anyone from your own family or someone whom you meet on a
regular
basis.
THE ROOT CAUSE...
Dr
Chulani feels the basic reason stems from how gender stereotypes have
undergone
a change in the society. “There is fuzziness about the social
demarcations
in the roles of a man and a woman with an amalgamation
of
it somewhere,“ she explains.
“However,
overtly aggressive behaviour can be traced back to the person's
distorted childhood,“ reveals psychologist
Dr Seema Hingorrany . “Many
of
these women who come to me admit that they felt no sense of worth
while
growing up. They may also have faced physical abuse. Lack of a
`safety
net' from parents and family makes them diabolical,“ says
Dr
Hingorrany .“A series of dysfunctional relationships worsens
their
profile.Many a times these women are `emotionally numb' and may
wear different masks in society ,“ she
explains. It's not smooth sailing
when
it comes to relationships for these women because they always want
to be in the driver's seat.
THERE'S
A WAY OUT...
Dr
Chulani suggests a remedy .“Personality correction through therapy
can
work for these extreme cases,“ she says. Dr Hingoranny also affirms
that
realisation is the key . “It's good to be ambitious but being `too Alpha'
and stepping on other's feelings is not
correct,“ she says.
AN
ALPHA WOMAN IS DEFINED AS:
She
is a strong, confident female. Someone who has ambition and a desire
for
power and may date as many men as she wants. She is also not afraid
to
take risks.
WELL-KNOWN
ALPHAS:
Hillary
Clinton Oprah Winfrey Condoleezza Rice Ivanka Trump
WHICH
ONE ARE YOU?
Here
are the main group diversifications. Choose where you fit in...Alphas;
Confident leaders, these are the toughest
and smartest of the lot.Betas:
Shy and prefer to be sidekicks or enforcers
of alphas. They usually can't
get the top rung of women and men so they go
for second-tier folk.
Gamas:
Introspective folk, they are usually bitter about their life experiences
and are found hanging around in the corner
at a party .Zetas: These are witty
,
classy people, often providing laughter for the group.Omegas: Indifferent
and
even coming across as unfriendly and undesirable, they strive to get
things
on their terms and don't belong to a clique.Deltas: Submissive, who
go with the flow, Deltas are happy to just
exist.
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