10 Books That Can
Change Your Life in One Long Weekend
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1. Top 5 Regrets of the Dying
Life is more than about just making money. In
fact, I have found a lot of rich people are still unhappy or unfulfilled. This
book does a great job addressing other life concerns.
The author saw hundreds of people pass
because she worked in a retirement home.
I have definitely changed how I live my life
and what I want to do because of the book. My priorities have shifted.
Biggest takeaways: Do more things that you
wouldn't do out of fear of failure. Our biggest regrets are often out of fear
or trying to please others. Don't live someone's dream life or job if it's not
your own. You can be happy in the most mundane or simple times.
The author of the book has some great stories
that taught me about life as well.
She was quite happy despite living a modest
life. She was thankful for every moment because she survived cancer. She
counseled many elderly men and women, some rich, some poor, some bitter at the
world, some angry, and some depressed. One of my favorite stories was one where
a rich but bitter woman was angry and confused as to how she could be so happy
all the time.
2. The Millionaire Next Door
Want to get the surprise of your life? This
book unveils some common trends of millionaires after studying thousands that
go against the stereotype. For example, the most common car they own is a
pick-up truck, and they usually live modest lives.
I still remember this book after many years!
I listened to it on audiobook while playing Batman: Arkham City and
Battlefield.
Nonetheless, it left a deep impression on me
about personal finance and wealth creation. It led me down a whirlwind path of
improving my finances and understanding how wealth is made.
Biggest takeaway: you can get rich slowly
over time even with a modest salary if you budget, save, and invest. Most
millionaires live very modestly and have modest cars/houses/items. They spend
on what they enjoy and got there through being frugal and smart. They're not
like stereotypical millionaires you would imagine with fancy mansions.
Having said that, there are tons of
takeaways, and I will be reading this again.
3. Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell
The biggest lesson from this one was that IQ
and natural genetic intelligence definitely don't guarantee success. And if
you're good enough, what matters a lot is how much more time you put into
practicing compared to the next guy, not how much more naturally gifted you
are.
In the book, there was a reference to a study
that tracked thousands of the nation's highest-IQ children over their
lifetimes. As adults, they were shockingly no more successful than a randomly
selected control group. Some were garbage men!
How did this occur? Clearly, there's more to
success than just IQ. Social and emotional intelligence are big players in a
world where you have to deal with politics, social interaction, managing
people, leading people, and other obstacles.
Another huge takeaway was that I will always
pay respect and be thankful for how lucky I am. Every successful person has
some element of luck at play even if they do all the right things. Even if you
don't think you have any luck, you do. I thought I didn't have much, but I was
lucky enough to be born in the U.S. out of all the countries in the world.
4.Made In America by Sam Walton
One of my first experiences with deeply
peering into the thought process and lifestyle of one of the richest men in the
entire world.
I was quite shocked: He lived very modestly.
Talked and treated others as equals. He was always a charismatic people's man.
He cared more about his company than spending that money right up until he
died.
Sam taught me the power of humility and
eagerness to learn.
Let me paint the story: this man had built
one store into a billion-dollar empire. He was the richest man in the U.S. Was
he sailing around on yachts? No. He decided to spend an entire day driving with
his truck drivers to see what their lives were like to remove inefficiencies.
It wasn't beneath him.
Another time, he and one of his top
executives went into a smaller competitor's store. The whole store was a mess
and horrible in almost every way: messy aisles, disorganized products, bad
product positioning, and so on. The executive came out of the store talking
about how bad the store was in every way. What Sam said next stopped him in his
tracks and taught him a lesson he would remember for the rest of his life.
Sam simply mentioned the one tiny detail he
found in the store that they were doing better than Walmart's store. And he
asked for his executive to immediately work on it.
This man was always looking to improve and
never too humble to learn from others. There's plenty of other stories like
this in the book. Some involving him crawling on all fours measuring aisle
lengths in his competitors stores.
He taught me some great lessons on social
skills, respect, leading a team, learning from others, and transparency.
It was a great book with many business and
life lessons.
5. Awaken The Giant Within by Tony Robbins
The biggest lesson in Anthony Robbin's
classic, best-known book is his introductory chapter. He tells the story of how
he flies over a building in his personal helicopter and realizes it was the
building he used to work in as a janitor.
He was flying to a place to speak (he's a
well-known motivational speaker) and so many people had signed up to attend
that traffic had blocked up all the streets leading up to the area. Now, Tony
Robbins is worth over 500 million and runs a multi-billion dollar set of
companies.
Why did this story move me so much? Because I
had big dreams too and was doubtful as to how I could possibly get there.
For Tony Robbins to have little education as
a janitor and get to where he is in 10 years really inspired me.
6. Act Like A Success, Think Like A Success
by Steve Harvey
Steve's story really spoke to me in a similar
way that Tony Robbins' did.
He came from a place much worse than me and
rose to a place much better. What spoke to me even more than that was how he
began his journey.
He dropped out of school and worked at a
factory while his friend Arsenio Hall went to chase his dream of being a
comedian (a dream Steve had himself). Steve and his friends laughed at Arsenio
for being impractical.
6 years later, Steve was hating his job at
the factory. He saw Arsenio on TV, having achieved his dream, and called all
his friends in shock. Later he broke down crying because Arsenio achieved his
dream.
Steve realized Arsenio exercised some laws of
success and created what he wanted. He did the same thing and achieved
multi-million dollar success himself.
Steve goes into detail about his journey in
his book. There's a lot of great lessons about how you can't let other people's
beliefs become your own and how you focus on being the best rather than on
making more money.
His story was not an overnight success one. I
didn't even know for the longest time! For years, I thought he was just another
overnight success comedian I always saw on TV until I found out about his book.
Steve struggled for a long time against many doubters including many of his
previous bosses. He even was homeless.
One of my favorite lessons of his is to
always be thankful for what you have. You can be rich but ungrateful and
everything you get doesn't affect you. You don't want to live like that.
Other similar stories that spoke to me in
tough times where I thought there was little hope were from billionaire John
Paul DeJoria and Chris Gardner, both of who lived through homelessness as well.
This is an
economy that allows for great upside potential no matter your past or present
situation.
I would say
the biggest emotionally driven movie scene that also spoke to me in this way
was from Rocky
Balboa when he talked to his son. I thought he
was speaking straight to me when he screamed:
"But
somewhere along the line, you changed. You stopped being you. You let people
stick a finger in your face and tell you you're no good. And when things
got hard, you started looking for something to blame, like a big shadow.
Let me tell you something you already know.
The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place and
I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there
permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life.
But it ain't about how hard ya hit. It's about how hard you can get hit
and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's
how winning is done! Now if you know what you're worth then go out and get
what you're worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not
pointing fingers saying you ain't where you wanna be because of him, or her, or
anybody! Cowards do that and that ain't you! You're better than
that!"
The way Sylvester Stallone acted out this
scene was so emotionally evocative for me that I almost started crying. When he
talked about blaming others, I related to that. When he said, "You're
better than that!", I felt like he was speaking right to me through the
screen.
The message is
clear: stop making excuses or blaming someone else. It's not about how
tough life gets, it's about how you keep moving forward. Cowards blame others
and that isn't you.
7. Success Through Stillness by Russell Simmons
I accidentally found this book and read it on
a whim. It really added incredible insights.
This man was a hard-drug addict, hip-hop
mogul, and multi-millionaire. He dramatically increased his success, saved his
own life, and changed it for the better through meditation.
In the book, he goes into great detail about
·
how meditation isn't a religion
·
how it's the key to his success and 10xing
his success
·
how it allowed him to become present in the
moment and save his life from the brain damage from crack and other hard drugs.
He tells it in a very easy-to-understand way.
Even to this day, he has very deep connections with some of the best in the
modern hip hop scene. You'll see him in a lot of paparazzi photos with some of
the world's most connected actors and musicians.
It was also interesting reading one quick
story about how his friend spent hundreds of thousands of dollars to try to
date a Victoria's Secret model and still failed. It's a lesson that attests to
the fact that just because you're rich doesn't mean you're good with girls.
8. The How of Happiness
Most of what we do is to be happier. So it
would make sense to learn what makes us happy and what doesn't. In fact, a lot
of successful entrepreneurs chase what they "think" will bring them
happiness, only to find out that it doesn't.
I really struggled with happiness and was
confused with all the advice I got from people. These were opinions, and who knew
if they were true? Even if the advice on happiness came from established people
from church or wealthy millionaires, I wasn't sure if the advice was the real
truth. I didn't want opinions anymore; I wanted the science of happiness.
I wanted the complete A to Z on happiness
based on extensive scientific testing.
After going through many bad books on
happiness that claimed to have science but did it in a messy manner, I found
this book, which was almost everything I asked for. It was also not too long or
boring to read.
It did a great job of covering all the bases
and since I've been using its principles, I am in a much happier place that is
sustainable.
I walk through life having a much clearer
understanding of happiness than 99% of the world based on decades of
experimental testing and research.
One of my big
missions on my blog is to share with the world that more money, fame,
wealth, cars, mansions, clothing, women, or materialistic possessions will not
increase your happiness. You will get used to it very
quickly. Studies have been well documented that track and prove this.
What actually increases our happiness are
things like savoring the moment, relationships, social circles, gratefulness,
and a variety of other activities mentioned in the book. Becoming happier is
partially genetic and partially a difficult but worthy habit to obtain.
It's a huge mission of mine to spread this
message because I am well plugged into social media and see thousands of kids
chase these things and get depressed through social comparison. Because I watch
a lot of speeches and interviews of successful people in my free time, I also
observe a lot of successful, wealthy people who finally get there and realize
it didn't make them happier.
Most recently,
we've had celebrities like Cara DeLevigne, Lady Gaga, Russell Brand, and Jay-Z come out and talk about this.
9. Tap Dancing To Work
This one is a profile on Warren Buffett.
I say this because although the book was
great, it was really all the things I learned because of the book that I'm
thankful for. It really was one of the gateway books that really spurred me
into learning as much as I can about Warren Buffett the billionaire.
Because of this, I learned so many life
lessons.
The money manager Mohnish Pabrai said it
best: "The most amazing things about Warren Buffett have nothing to do
with business or money."
Although I went in to learn about how he made
his money, I learned a lot of incredible life lessons:
·
live modestly
·
happiness isn't tied to money
·
family time is often more important than time
at work
·
you should love what you do for a living
·
always be ethical or it'll come back to bite
you
·
you should never be envious or jealous of
other people who lucked out
These seem like simple concepts but I see so
many people every day who don't follow them. Also, Buffett illustrates these in
very unique ways with how he lives his own life and the mistakes he's made.
By becoming consistently one of the richest
people in the world over the last few decades, he has continued to live in a
modest house, driven a modest car, eat at McDonald's, and give many examples of
how being unethical screwed over other companies, and he's proved how he being
patient beat being jealous.
10. The 4 Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss
This book is constantly spoken about in the
business and self-help niche.
At first, I was annoyed about it and thought
it was overhyped. But then, I realized what a feat it was. Tim literally wrote
this book only several years ago and went from being a nobody to a legend in
the space. It's admirable.
There's a lot of good tips and hacks about
business, productivity, and travel in here.
These are the biggest takeaways and warnings
I have for you:
·
My only warning: Don't be fooled by the
title. It was split-tested and works the best. However, I don't even think Tim
recommends the 4 hour work week. You still need to work hard for what you want
in life.
·
Productivity hack: Only check emails twice a
day maximum and only towards the end of the day. They are often not as high
priority as other things you can do and it sucks up your time.
·
Travel hacking: Tim opened me up to the world
of travel hacking, which I spent a lot more time researching through books and
websites. He made me realize that I could travel the world even if I'm not
super rich because the cost of living is so much lower in other countries that
money goes a longer way and because you can cut unnecessary costs by getting
cheaper hotels, use travel credit cards, and cheaper forms of transportation.
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