The Most Misunderstood Aspect Of Great Leadership
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I was recently asked what I consider
to be the most misunderstood aspect of great leadership; in other words, what
makes great leadership great? What immediately came to mind is not only misunderstood,
but it also happens to be the most often overlooked element of leadership,
and the one which also affords leaders the greatest opportunity for personal,
professional, and enterprise growth. If you want to become a better leader in
2013, I suggest you become comfortable with a leadership practice few are –
surrender.
Surrender – not for the faint of
heart
You’ll rarely encounter the words leadership and surrender used together in complementary fashion. Society has labeled surrender as a sign of leadership weakness, when in fact, it can be among the greatest of leadership strengths. Let me be clear, I’m not encouraging giving in or giving up – I am suggesting you learn the ever so subtle art of letting go.
You’ll rarely encounter the words leadership and surrender used together in complementary fashion. Society has labeled surrender as a sign of leadership weakness, when in fact, it can be among the greatest of leadership strengths. Let me be clear, I’m not encouraging giving in or giving up – I am suggesting you learn the ever so subtle art of letting go.
A leader simply operates at their
best when they understand their ability to influence is much more fruitful than
their ability to control. Here’s the thing – the purpose of leadership is not
to shine the spotlight on yourself, but to unlock the potential of others so
they can in turn shine the spotlight on countless more. Control is about power
– not leadership. Surrender allows a leader to get out of their own way and
focus on adding value to those whom they serve.
Surrender – control freaks need not
apply
If you’re still not convinced the art of leadership is learning the focus point should be on surrender not control, consider this: control restricts potential, limits initiative, and inhibits talent. Surrender fosters collaboration, encourages innovation and enables possibility. Controlling leaders create bottlenecks rather than increase throughput. They signal a lack of trust and confidence an often come across as insensitive if not arrogant. When you experience weak teams, micro-management, frequent turf wars, high stress, operational strain, and a culture of fear, you are experiencing what control has to offer – not very attractive is it?
If you’re still not convinced the art of leadership is learning the focus point should be on surrender not control, consider this: control restricts potential, limits initiative, and inhibits talent. Surrender fosters collaboration, encourages innovation and enables possibility. Controlling leaders create bottlenecks rather than increase throughput. They signal a lack of trust and confidence an often come across as insensitive if not arrogant. When you experience weak teams, micro-management, frequent turf wars, high stress, operational strain, and a culture of fear, you are experiencing what control has to offer – not very attractive is it?
Surrender allows the savvy leader to
serve where control demands the ego-centric leader be served. Surrender allows
leadership to scale and a culture of leadership to be established. Surrender
prefers loose collaborative networks over rigid hierarchical structures
allowing information to be more readily shared and distributed. Leaders who
understand surrender think community, ecosystem, and culture – not org chart.
Surrender is what not only allows the dots to be connected, but it’s what
allows to dots to be multiplied. Controlling leaders operate in a world of
addition and subtraction, while the calculus of a leader who understands
surrender is built on exponential multiplication.
I have found those who embrace
control are simply attempting to consolidate power, while those who practice
surrender are facilitating the distribution of authority. When what you seek is
to build into others more than glorifying self you have developed a level of
leadership maturity that values surrender over control. Surrender is the
mindset which creates the desire for leaders to give credit rather than take
it, to prefer hearing over being heard, to dialogue instead of monologue, to
have an open mind over a closed mind, to value unlearning as much as learning.
Control messages selfishness, while surrender conveys selflessness – which is
more important to you?
Surrender – when not to
Keep this in mind – we all surrender, but not all surrender is honorable. Some surrender to their ego, to the wrong priorities, or to other distractive habits. Others surrender to the positive realization they are not the center of the universe – they surrender to something beyond themselves in order to accomplish more for others. Bottom line – what you do or don’t surrender to will define you. Assuming you surrender to the right things, surrender is not a sign of leadership weakness, but is perhaps the ultimate sign of leadership confidence. I’ll leave you with this quote from William Booth: “The greatness of a mans power is the measure of his surrender.”
Keep this in mind – we all surrender, but not all surrender is honorable. Some surrender to their ego, to the wrong priorities, or to other distractive habits. Others surrender to the positive realization they are not the center of the universe – they surrender to something beyond themselves in order to accomplish more for others. Bottom line – what you do or don’t surrender to will define you. Assuming you surrender to the right things, surrender is not a sign of leadership weakness, but is perhaps the ultimate sign of leadership confidence. I’ll leave you with this quote from William Booth: “The greatness of a mans power is the measure of his surrender.”
Mike Myatt http://www.forbes.com/sites/mikemyatt/2012/12/26/the-most-misunderstood-aspect-of-great-leadership/
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