WAYS TO AVOID A MASSIVE EMAIL
MISUNDERSTANDING
EMOTIONS ARE HARD TO
CONVEY WITH TEXT, BUT IF YOU UNDERSTAND HOW YOU’RE LIKELY TO BE MISUNDERSTOOD,
YOU CAN TRY TO MINIMIZE THE PROBLEM.
When you meet face
to face, you can read a person’s emotions. Even with
a phone call, someone’s tone of voice can convey a lot of information. But with
email, you’re flying blind, which is why it’s easy to be misconstrued.
We’ve written
before about how hard it is for other people
to detect emotions in email. In one study, test participants emailed 10
statements to recipients, some serious, some sarcastic. The senders thought
recipients would identify the correct emotion most of the time, but in fact,
the recipients didn’t do much better than randomly guessing.
So how can you be sure you convey the correct emotions in your emails?
"Ultimately, it’s a short answer. You can’t," says Dmitri Leonov,
vice president for growth at email management system SaneBox. However, if you understand how you’re
likely to be misunderstood, you can take these steps to minimize the problem.
Email is good for straightforward information sharing, or asking
close-ended questions. "If the email ends with, ‘Thoughts?’ that’s a sign
it’s not meant to be an email," says Leonov. Pick up the phone instead.
Likewise, if you’re feeling particularly emotional, you will also want to call,
Skype, or meet face to face.
If you need to respond to something immediately, and communication where
you see and hear the person isn’t possible, send a note saying you’ve received
the message and want to discuss the topic as soon as possible via a different
medium. With asynchronous communication, so-called "cyber disinhibition" comes into play. You don’t have to manage the fallout, so it’s
easy to say things you wouldn’t say in person. Things you wouldn’t say to
someone’s face are generally things better left unsaid.
Absent the nods and smiles you get while talking in person, the default
tone of neutral emails is actually negative. John Merline, a senior writer
at Investor’s Business Daily, says he didn’t realize this until
"I’d received emails from people that seemed unbelievably harsh—and the
people aren’t that way." Now, "I try to always start with some sort
of pleasantry," he says. "I think you can pretty much say whatever
you want after that." Even the worst meetings seldom start with yelling.
The aggrieved party walks in and says, Hey, we need to talk about this.
You can do the same with an email. Write it, then go back in and put, "I
hope you had a good weekend" or somesuch as the first sentence.
Parents try to calm young screaming children down with the phrase,
"Use your words," and that goes for emails too, says David Swink,
chief creative officer ofStrategic
Interactions. "We don’t want to make emails longer,
we’re already overwhelmed with them," he says, and if you’ve got a long
history with someone, it’s okay to just respond, "Okay." But using a
bit of word craft for those you know less well really helps. "Yes, I would
be happy to do that" manages the relationship better than
"yeah." The recipient knows you’re happy because you said so. Likewise,
you can say that you are frustrated, concerned, or confused—though all these
emotions are hard to resolve over email (another reason to pick up the phone).
You already know using all capital letters comes across as screaming.
But how else can you call attention to something, particularly in an email of
more than two sentences? "Bold the takeaway, the required action,"
says Leonov of SaneBox. It’s a non-jarring visual way to direct someone’s
focus.
In theory, using text versions or picture icons of expressions can help
give your email the proper tone. You’re not there smiling in person, but you
can put a smile in an email to show the same thing. The thinking on this is
evolving from not-business-appropriate to inevitable. "I’m actually a big
fan of the simple smiley face, or even a winky face," says Leonov.
"Don’t put it everywhere," but "it’s a nice way to soften something
that could be construed as negative." Just be aware that not all email
programs or devices will read a non-text character correctly, so if it’s really
critical, words are still the way to go.
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