15 Damaging Myths
About Life We Should
All Stop Believing
1
. There is a single definition of success.
And
it involves an established career, large house, acceptable body
shape, marriage and annual holidays.
Everyone
has their own path to walk in this life, and what brings true meaning
and deep fulfillment differs for all of us.
Let
go of your need to fit to the status quo. Live, work, date, play,
create, travel, eat, drink, move, laugh and sing in ways that feel
right with your soul. That is true success.
2.
Life is meant to be hard work.
Life
is meant to be easy, beautiful and overflowing with moments of joy
and bliss.
The
more you listen to your soul and build a life that's true to you, the
more your actions will feel completely natural and effortless.
If
life is a constant struggle, you're running on empty and you dread
Mondays, it's time to take an honest look at your life -- in a loving
way.
3.
Life happens to us.
Where
you are now is a result of the choices you made in the past. Where
you will be in the future is a result of the choices you are making
right now.
You
are an active participant in the creation of your life. So embrace
your power as a creator, and start choosing thoughts, words and
actions that make a positive impact and will come back to you in a
million magnificent, beautiful, jaw-dropping ways.
4.
There is such a thing as normal, and we should measure ourselves
against it.
There
is no such thing as a normal human, but there is such a thing as a
"normal" you -- where you're completely yourself, you love
yourself deeply and you think and act in ways that feel aligned with
your soul.
Let
your internal compass be your only point of reference.
5.
There is an "us" and a "them."
We
draw a line around our social and family circles, keeping out
everyone who doesn't fit neatly within our definition of normal,
interesting or worthwhile.
While
everyone has vastly different aptitudes, passions and quirks,
everyone also has the same light within them. The light within you is
the same light within me, within the stranger on the bus, and within
anyone you consider your enemy.
6.
We have to compete for limited resources.
Life
is meant to be abundant and limitless. We create scarcity by
believing in it, instead of focusing our efforts on creating, giving
and contributing our gift to help humankind reach its highest
potential.
Relax
and feel it deep within your heart that you will always be provided
for.
7.
Happiness comes from external things.
We
pin our happiness on external things like our appearance, bank
balance, job title, travel plans, possessions and the opinions of
others -- and then suffer as a result.
True,
sustainable happiness comes from within -- by cultivating a mindset
based on gratitude, mindfulness and acceptance.
8.
Holding grudges is a natural part of life.
When
we feel that someone has "wronged" us, we cling to the
memory and carry it around with us for weeks or sometimes years. What
we fail to realize is that we are holding ourselves hostage, not just
the perceived wrong-doer.
The
Buddha once said, "Holding
on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing
it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned."
Make
forgiveness your new motto and see how much freer and lighter your
soul feels.
9.
There is something wrong with us.
We
are plagued by feelings of inadequateness and worthlessness,
postponing self-acceptance and self-love until a day in the future
when we're thinner, wealthier, more confident and more popular.
You
are perfect and complete exactly as you are. Even when you are
striving to improve and grow, you are complete. As the Buddhist
saying goes, "We
are all perfect as we are, and we could all use a little work."
10.
It matters what other people think of us.
We
give away so much of our energy, power and inner peace by worrying
about what others think of us.
The
truth is we can't ever know for certain what other people are
thinking about us. So when your ego starts to fill you with doubt and
fear, remember it's a fictional story.
11.
We see things how they really are.
How
we experience the world is heavily influenced by our beliefs and past
experiences.
Our
subconscious mind chooses pieces of information to serve to our
conscious mind based on what we've programmed it to look for.
Identify your dominant beliefs and replace the ones that aren't
serving you.
12.
Meditation is something people do on a cushion at sunrise.
You
can meditate and be mindful all throughout the day as you go about
your life.
Pause
and feel the weight of your body in your seat, the feeling of the
fabric against your skin, and the slight sensation of the air on your
face.
Take
a few deep breaths and let your whole being relax. Scan your body up
and down for sensations, simply observing, without making any
judgments.
13.
When we give something, we lose something.
Giving
and receiving are one in truth. When you give to someone with no
strings attached -- whether it be a physical gift, a compliment or
your time -- you are nourished as well as the receiver.
Not
only do you experience sensations of satisfaction and joy, but your
karma will bring more blessings and gifts back into your life.
14.
We have to logically figure everything out.
We've
been taught to trust our minds but not our intuition or inner voice
of guidance.
When
you're grappling with a problem or lacking clarity, learn to lean
into your soul and trust the wisdom it provides to you -- often in
the form of a gut feeling, serendipitous sign or a spontaneous "aha!"
moment.
15.
We need to be more realistic.
Many
people think that daily happiness and joy is an unrealistic goal, and
we should be more realistic.
Happiness
is THE ultimate goal of our lives, and it is both worthwhile and
attainable.
Understand
your purpose is to blossom into the highest, happiest version of you
and let go of any guilt you feel for making your happiness a
priority.
Elyse
Gorman
Writer
and founder of NotesOnBliss.com
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/elyse-gorman/15-damaging-myths-about-l_b_6324636.html
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