How To Handle Criticism
Like A Pro
It's hard to feel warm and fuzzy inside when our latest
Instagram post receives a measly two likes, let alone when our boss gives us
negative feedback on a project. But to succeed in life, both personally and
professionally, it's important to take criticism in stride. Being able to hear
people's opinions can improve our relationships, academic performance, and job
satisfaction . Find out how to handle what others have to say without
shedding a tear.
Hurtful or Helpful?
Criticism is a term for judgment or
evaluation, good or bad. And it can pop up everywhere: from college papers,
to personal
blogs,
to family get-togethers, and chats with friends. (Your new haircut does not suit
your face shape. But have a great date!) There are lots of reasons why people
offer criticism, like feeling jealous or insecure in a romantic relationship (You always forget
to call!). At work, organization leaders may also use criticism to help
employees improve their work -- and make them tremble before approaching the
boss's office. But not all criticism is bad news bears.
Constructive
criticism --
offering thoughtful feedback -- can help us gain valuable insight into our
actions and increase trust between people. Among college students, constructive criticism on academic work
(Here's how this paragraph could be better) may boost that GPA more than deconstructive
criticism (This paper is awful). On the other hand, deconstructive criticism -- the "you
suck!" kind -- involves accusing people and pointing out their faults
without suggestions for improvement.
Unsurprisingly, deconstructive criticism can hurt people's self-esteem, making them feel guilty
for not performing up to par. But whether criticism is useful or just plain
humiliating, there are ways to deal with it and move on.
Your Action Plan
Being sensitive to criticism can be a sticky situation.
Sometimes people may even stop working toward a goal out of fear of being critiqued. But don't give in to those worries about potential critiques. Here
are some helpful tips to handle any kind of criticism that heads our way:
Listen up.
Figure out whether the criticism is constructive or simply rude.
You may feel hurt when your partner says you're controlling, but having him
point out this flaw may help you change and ultimately save the relationship.
If criticism could be helpful, lend all ears and try to learn from it instead
of getting defensive.
Respond calmly.
Be respectful no matter what, and thank someone if the feedback
is useful . If the critique is uncalled for (that story you wrote
was crap!), kill em with kindness. A simple smile makes you the bigger person.
Don't take it personally.
Try to remove yourself from the situation and focus on what's
being critiqued. That C+ midterm doesn't reflect your A+ personality! Instead,
it's a reminder to study a little harder next time, skip all that partying the
night before, or realize that calculus simply isn't your biggest strength.
Manage stress.
When we're constantly on edge, we can feel out of control and
unable to respond to criticism with a clear head. So take a deeeep breath to
keep those stress levels in check.
Keep on keepin on'.
Remember that the criticism represents just one person's point
of view. Know what your strengths are and don't let other people's opinions
keep you from working hard towards a goal. If somebody says you're too short to
be a power forward, start working on that jump shot!
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