How To Build Self Confidence
And Prepare Yourself For Success In Life
Do you act in a way that’s
governed by other people’s opinions?
Do you continually stay in
your comfort zone for fear of failure?
Do you fear making mistakes
and cover them up before anyone finds out?
Do you feel you need constant
recognition for your successes to feel validated?
Or do you simply find it hard
to accept compliments?
Self-confidence is something
we all want but for a huge number of us, it can be a struggle in our day-to-day
lives.
If you say “yes” to any of the above questions, it means you
still need to work on strengthening your self-confidence.
And the key to overcoming low
self-confidence is understanding what it is and ways we can combat it head on.
The
Difference Between Self-Confidence And Self-Esteem
Many people can’t
differentiate these two concepts. While they may seem similar, there are
fundamental differences between self-confidence and self-esteem.
Self-confidence is about our
ability to trust in ourselves and how we deal with challenges or difficult
situations. Self-esteem is our cognitive and emotional assessment of ourselves
that is connected with our worth.
Both of these don’t always go
hand in hand. Someone with an abundance of self-confidence may have significant
low self-esteem. A typical example of this would be a performer who can stand
on stage to thousands of people but who destroys himself with alcohol and drugs
behind closed doors.
The great thing about working
on raising your self-confidence is that it’s much easier than working on your
self-esteem. By boosting confidence first and foremost, you can then be better
equipped to target any self-esteem issues.
Self-Confidence
Level Determines How Successful You Are
Self-confidence is crucial when it comes to our learning and
capabilities. Our confidence can affect our performance and relationships with
others and is a much stronger indication of success than self-esteem.
And this is down to what we believe is true about ourselves. Our
beliefs influence heavily what we think we are capable of. In other words,
mindset is a big determinant in how much self-confidence we have.
If we believe we are no good at a task then our performance is
lessened significantly. The influence our mind has on our abilities can be the
difference between performing well or performing less than our actual
capabilities. Fears are therefore fundamental to our level of confidence and
transcends throughout different areas of our life.
How Can We
Build Up Our Self-Confidence?
There are many ways we can build up our self-confidence so what
are some good hacks we can apply to our day-to-day lives?
Fake It ‘Til
You Make It
If you have low self-confidence then the advice of ‘being
yourself’ can be detrimental. This is where faking confidence can really help
you move forward with success. Paying attention to how you want to present
yourself to others can give you clarity into striving to act in this way.
Sometimes it’s easier to change from the outside in – in other
words, once we get used to acting in a confident way, it can become more
familiar and we can start to see positive results.
Your Every
Gesture Counts
Body language is an important way to convey confidence. When we
have low self-confidence it can be apparent in the way we physically hold
ourselves. Standing up tall and even doing power poses (think Superman) can
change the way we think to that of confidence. Try it throughout the day and
see the difference it makes. Talk more slowly – taking time to think about what
you want to say – and making eye contact will give the impression of
confidence.
Here’s a video that gives you more idea of how to act with
confidence:
Dress For
Confidence
Studies have shown that what you wear can have significant influence
on how you feel and act.[5] Dressing up in
clothes that make you feel confident can change your attitude and outlook on a
stressful situation.
Change Your
Mindset
Mindset is extremely important when it comes to confidence.
Confident people focus on more positive thoughts and outcomes than negative
ones. Try to change your perspective and habit of thinking – focus on abundance
rather than lack. Know that the outcome doesn’t necessarily reflect your
abilities.
Celebrate Small
Wins
People with low self-confidence have a tendency to put a lot of
pressure on the bigger picture. The secret to building more confidence is to
focus more on the small steps we take. Direct more significance to small wins
and celebrate them as this will help you realise how far you’ve come. In
essence, become your own cheerleader.
See How You
Become A Better You
Taking up a new skill like learning a language can help you to
build up confidence. Seeing improvements and keeping track of progress will
instinctively build up how you see yourself in terms of ability. It can also
help distract and calm the mind, blocking any worrying or overthinking that may
arise from other areas of your life.
Recommended Reading Material
If books are your thing, then You
Are A Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome
Life by Jen Sincero is an excellent read to
help you build your confidence and tackle your fears. It provides inspirational
stories and easy exercises to follow all in a humorous and relatable fashion.
It helps you to identify the behaviours and negative beliefs that are keeping
you back from being the fully confident person you’re capable of being!
So, remember building confidence is really a combination of
mindset and changing our detrimental behavioural patterns. But the key is knowing that
low self-confidence can be overcome.
“Low
self-confidence isn’t a life sentence. Self-confidence can be learned,
practiced, and mastered–just like any other skill. Once you master it,
everything in your life will change for the better.” – Barrie Davenport
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