Saturday, July 30, 2016

BOOK SUMMARY 233 Everybody Matters

BOOK SUMMARY 233
Everybody Matters

·         Summary written by: Jane Bushby
"When we say our people matter but we don’t actually care for them, it can shatter trust and create a culture of paranoia, cynicism, and self-interest."
- Everybody Matters, page ix
The concept in Everybody Matters is that treating our colleagues and staff like family will create an organisational climate that is conducive to employee and community well-being and delivers returns for the organisation.
Having learnt from early experiences, Bob Chapman has made it his life’s ambition to create workplaces where all people feel valued. He and Raj Sisodia recognise that this impacts positively on an organisation’s outputs, and they emphasise it is important to focus on individuals and their well-being as this creates ripples across the organisation and the community. This focus is necessary to ensure that caring for and having the right approach towards others is authentic and sustained. Bob and Raj argue that achieving this creates positive flow on effects for the organisation’s productivity and outputs, as all employees inherently want their organisation to succeed. Bob has an impressive track record of taking over struggling (often dying) companies and transforming them into market leaders. This book outlines how he achieves this, quite simply by treating individuals with respect and trusting them to have the answers.


The Golden Egg
It’s all about the leaders
"Leaders are responsible for overseeing the environment in which people are asked to work… and people will act in accordance with that culture."- Everybody Matters, page ix
Bob and Raj make it very clear that it’s about the leaders and how they behave that creates the workplace climate. Their leadership philosophy is firmly grounded in the responsibility that leaders, much as parents, have for role modelling and authentically demonstrating desired behaviours. Indeed, many of the actions identified for improving the workplace are seen as starting with the leader. Establishing the expectations of leadership and what it is to be an employee of Barry-Wehmiller (Bob’s organization) is the first step towards creating a strong and desirable workplace climate. Consistent with this approach, they developed a Leadership Checklist (see below) which outlines what is required of an individual assuming this responsibility.
Leadership Checklist
I accept the awesome responsibility of leadership. The following statements describe my essential actions as a leader.
·         I practice stewardship of the Guiding Principles of Leadership through my time, conversations, and personal development.
·         I advocate safety and wellness through my actions and words.
·         I reflect to lead my team in Achieving Principled Results on Purpose.
·         I inspire passion, optimism and purpose.
·         My personal communication cultivates fulfilling relationships.
·         I foster a team community in which we are committed to each other and to the pursuit of common goals.
·         I exercise responsible freedom, empowering each of us to achieve our potential.
·         I proactively engage in the personal growth of individuals on my team.
·         I facilitate meaningful group interactions.
·         I set, coach to, and measure goals that define winning.
·         I commit to daily continuous improvement.
To support embedding their culture, they have developed their own internal leadership development program which involves individuals considering “leadership as a conscious commitment rather than a title or a role description”. As a consequence, individuals decide when they are ready to attend the program and to be open to learning what this conscious commitment involves.

Gem #1
Believe in other people’s strengths and celebrate their skills
"Encourage and insist that each team member – every member of the family – play to his strengths so that each one has the opportunity to become great at what they’re good at."- Everybody Matters, page 73
There are some great examples of leadership that are not hierarchically based which links to this first GEM. Throughout the book, Bob and Raj emphasize the importance of giving others the space to grow. The book outlines the importance for leaders to have patience and provide their teams with the space to learn and grow based on their own experiences. A critical element for leaders is acknowledging staff when they do the right thing and helping them learn from experiences. This creates a positive environment and encourages people to think about the strengths of their colleagues which decreases the likelihood of gossiping about their foibles. A key aspect of this is seeking to recognize and acknowledge individual and team achievements which in turn demonstrates caring, and creates inspiration and joy through celebrations.

Gem #2
Achieve through ‘Responsible Freedom’
"Responsible Freedom encapsulates two ideas: freedom, the opportunity to exercise personal choice, to have ownership of the work that you do and the directions you make; and responsibility, ensuring that personal choice is exercised with care and concern for other people and the requirements of the organization, and it requires two-way trust."- Everybody Matters, page 175
As with many other aspects, Bob and Raj share their sources for some of their ideas with the concept of Responsible Freedom coming from the philosopher Peter Koestenbaum. For Bob and Raj, this involves three key behaviours:
·         Share your gifts and talents (do not hide aspects of yourself at work),
·         Be proactive and help create the organization’s vision, and
·         Collaborate with others to create a better organization.
This requires having clear goals and ensuring that all individuals know and understand these goals so that they can use their strengths and work proactively and collaboratively to help make them happen. This empowers people and gives them the freedom to strive for success on behalf of, and with, their teams.
Throughout the book, the authors include anecdotes and quotes from other thought leaders, including Simon Sinek who lauds this approach, seeing it as something he wishes more companies would focus on. I loved many of the concepts in the book and will endeavor to create a desirable climate based on my takeaways. The book provides a lot of food for thought and did get me thinking and wondering what work would be like if we accepted each other’s foibles. I was left wondering what would happen in an organization where we genuinely view our staff, peers and leaders with the same sense of ‘blood is thicker than water’ as when we turn a blind eye to actions of family members that hit our buttons.
As a convert to the concept, I felt the authors spent a lot of time ‘convincing’ me of the benefits of their approach. Bob and his team undoubtedly encountered resistance and cynicism and as the ultimate leader I can see how he could influence this process. I would have valued more detailed steps for lower level leaders on how to encourage their leaders to enact some of these concepts, particularly those who may not be as ‘sold’ on the concepts. Having said that, Bob suggests that if nothing else, if you as a leader who consciously accepts the ‘awesome responsibility’, you can role model and exemplify the benefits. How could you do this from within your organization? What challenges would you face and are they outweighed by the benefits and opportunities that Bob and his team identify?


PERSONAL MOTIVATION SPECIAL...................... The 11 Questions to Ask Yourself When You Feel Uninspired

The 11 Questions to Ask Yourself When You Feel Uninspired

Did you know 70 percent of Americans hate their jobs? Less than one third of U.S. employees are engaged at work. And those who have just recently joined the workforce—"disenchanted millennials," they've been called—are particularly at risk. Research from 2014 found millennials are less likely to say they "have the opportunity to do what they do best" at work, and many are working in jobs that aren't aligned with their talents or strengths.
Maybe this sounds familiar. Maybe you’re struggling to find out what it is you care most about. Maybe you feel as if your passion, excitement, and zest for life are slipping away. You’re not alone.
If you’ve been feeling exhausted and depleted all the time, there’s hope. Maybe you’re not just tired but uninspired.
These questions can help you pinpoint exactly what it is that inspires you. If you decide to, you can even use these answers to help craft a side hustle in your free time—to make more money, create more freedom, and attract an unlimited amount of opportunities down the line.
1. If money were no object, what would I do all day?
Believe it or not, even rich people need to work to stay stimulated (just look at Oprah Winfrey and Richard Branson). They just do what they want to do. Now that’s freedom! What would you do in this same position? Would you write, teach scuba diving, give dating advice? Work that you would do for free strongly implies what activities you enjoy most and what probably comes pretty easily to you.
2. If I could be anyone for a week, who would it be?
Who we admire is a huge indicator of who we secretly would like to become. Do you look up to Abby Wambach, Hillary Clinton, Victoria Beckham, Matt Lauer, Erin Burnett? Review who you obsess over—it’s a bright, shining clue.
3. What conversation topic can I get lost in for hours?
Real estate, investing, travel, animals, cars, fashion, fitness? Your most dominant chat topics are a vital sign of what excites you!
4. If I walk into a bookstore, which section am I drawn to?
This also applies to an Amazon search or even your preference for websites and blogs. What types of information do you most love to consume? What sites have your bookmarked? Which types of writers sit on your bookshelf? At this point, some solid dots might already be connecting for you. Embrace this!
5. Who do I love to spend time with and why?
Who's part of your "tribe"? Do you like analytical thinkers, creative people, entrepreneurs, artists? Often we are drawn to people like us and we are usually a reflection of our peer group. Who are your preferred friends—the ones who most energize you?
6. If you asked my partner/mother/best friend what I'm best at doing, what would they say?
Would there be a common thread throughout the answers? Are you a great motivator? An incredible listener? An organizer? A storyteller? A go-getter in business? An explorer? Let people who you love and trust tell you who you are. It’s an eye-opening and fun experiment—and a confidence boost.
7. Who was I as a kid?
Let your inner child (who never leaves you!) resurface in your thoughts. Look at a childhood photo of yourself. If you were true to this person, what would you be doing to make sure you don’t let him or her down? Trust me, the little you is begging to be heard and can be called to attention in an instant.
8. What do people come to me for?
Resume advice, helping to fix things at home, interior design tips? This can point you toward the gifts and talents that you might not recognize in yourself. Derek Sivers says it best, “What’s easy for you is amazing to others.”
9. What do I feel least insecure about?
Human beings are funny. We are inordinately hard on ourselves. We’re quick to point out our flaws and have a much harder time recognizing our skills. I once coached a very high-achieving CEO, and getting her to share her leadership strengths with me was like p u l l i n g t e e t h .
If this sounds like you, instead of thinking which qualities you most value in yourself, ask, “What parts of me do I dislike the least?” Allow yourself to remember past accomplishments or times where you’ve really helped others. Let the parts of you that you might secretly feel proud of truly shine.
10. What’s pure and simple fun for me?
Ain’t nothin’ like a consistent hobby that can reveal an awesome hustle idea. The only difference between a hustle and a hobby is that a hustle pays—meaning it provides a service for others. Take note—if you love to paint as a hobby purely for your own pleasure, great! That might not be a hustle idea. But if you’d also love to paint for other people and have your work in other people's homes/offices/beach houses… you may just be sitting on a jackpot!
I have a friend who love Krav Maga and teaches it to families and another friend who adores planning parties for her entrepreneurial friends. Bingo! They love the work they are doing, they are good at it, and they can be paid for it. What do you love to do that you are really good at and can be paid for?
11. If I had to write a book, what would it be about?
Don’t panic—you don’t have to write one! But if you did, what might it be about? I love asking people this random question. I hear so many answers from sailing to writing vegan recipes to helping people with PTSD heal through music. I just wrote a book on my passion: helping people make the impact they were born to make via the art of a side hustle.
The Takeaway 
There is nothing more important than becoming who you are here to be. With the distractions of daily life, we often do not take time to look within and understand who it is that we really are. The time and courage taken to give life to the real you is your only true obligation to yourself.
When we live an inspired life, we live a joyful life. It is impossible not to. When we become who we really are, our life can transform, and the results are often bigger than we imagine, bigger than us. We have more confidence. We create more abundance. Our connection to the world is solidified. And the legacy, the ripple effect of us living a life we love, has an endless contribution on the lives of others. What is more important than that?

BY SUSIE MOORE

http://greatist.com/live/motivation-tips-questions-to-ask-to-get-inspired?utm_source=Sailthru&utm_medium=email&utm_content=story9_title&utm_campaign=daily_newsletter_2016-07-25_mails_daily_new_header

COMMUNICATION /BOSS SPECIAL ........5 Words and Phrases Powerful Leaders Always Use

5 Words and Phrases Powerful Leaders Always Use

Don't let the simplicity of these words and phrases fool you. They can have a powerful impact on your team.


"Without knowing the force of words, it is impossible to know more." -  Confucius
Words are powerful, and words spoken by leaders have even more power. Because you're a leader, your words can build up or tear down. They can either stoke or dampen enthusiasm. Your words can bring out the best or elicit the worst in people.
When you use the right words, as Confucius said, you can "know more." You can comprehend where someone is coming from and get a better grasp of the situation. And because you have better visibility, you can make better decisions.
Using the right words will also make you a more effective leader, one who motivates and elicits the willing cooperation of your team.
If you want to become a more powerful leader, here are five words and phrases to use:
"And"
The word "and" is inclusive. It expands, it joins, it connects.
Using "and" instead of "or" makes you a more powerful leader, because you recognize that there are many more possibilities than what others see. You think in a less binary way. The choices aren't only A or B. They're A, or B, or A and B. You're opening up the possibility of doing both A and B, of things coming together. Simply by using "and," you've already expanded the options.
"Why"
When we were four years old, we annoyed the grown-ups with a litany of "why" questions: "Why is the sky blue?" "Why do we need to sleep?" It signaled a developmental milestone. We had grasped the concept of cause and effect. 
Somewhere along the way, many adults stop asking why. As a leader, you cannot afford to. When people bring you ideas, or when something happens, you want your people to be better at understanding what's going on, and to give you better information. That takes prodding. 
Asking "why?" both of others and internally to yourself is powerful. By asking why, you will explore the inner workings of events, and come up with solutions that address root problems. You will discover the deep motivations of people, and find ways to fully engage them. 
"Tell me more"
When your initial reaction to a suggestion is to say no, it's a clue that you should say "Tell me more," instead. Sometimes you're legitimately missing something. This phrase makes you a powerful leader, because you're seeking understanding. You're withholding judgment until you fully appreciate the complexity of the situation, or the multiple facets of an idea. 
But even if you're right and the idea isn't a sound one, people still need to feel heard. Saying "tell me more" signals that you're in listening mode. And listening is one of the most critical skills of a great leader.
"Whether" 
This is the word to use when you find yourself asking "how" to do something. We often get caught up in the "how," but we don't stop to think "whether" it is the best thing we should be doing. You see a course of action, and you want to execute right away. Step back and look at "whether" you should do it in the first place. Ask why you should carry out the plan. It's easy to get carried away with the excitement of doing something new or different, without clearly understanding what you expect to gain from it. When you've established "whether" a plan aligns with your organization's goals, then you can ask "how."
"What do you think we should do?"
Socrates was on to something when he found a way to teach students, not by giving answers, but by asking them questions. Leaders are sometimes too quick to offer solutions. Next time an employee brings up an issue, respond by asking, "What do you think we should do?" This will help your staff grow, because it empowers them to work things out on their own. Instead of giving them answers, let them flex their problem-solving muscles and strengthen their critical thinking skills. This question also allows you to explore ideas other than yours. It opens up a discussion that may eventually lead to a synergistic solution.
These words and phrases build up people, increase understanding, fan the fire of enthusiasm, and bring out the best in others. Use them every day and you'll become a more powerful leader.
BY DANNY INY

http://www.inc.com/danny-iny/5-words-and-phrases-powerful-leaders-always-use.html?cid=em01014week30a

Friday, July 29, 2016

PERSONAL LIFE SPECIAL .......................The 5 Life Lessons We Should Never Forget Again

The 5 Life Lessons We Should Never Forget Again

HEALTH 
“Life is what you make it”. “You learn from your mistakes”. How often do we hear those throwaway expressions? Usually at-least three or four times a day. Yet do we really understand them? And do we humans really learn from our mistakes?
Sadly not, usually we go on making the same mistake time after time, because the road leading to the problem looks different from the last one. Still the problem remains the same.
Here we look a some those of life lessons we keep forgetting that can help us get away from the mistakes that block us from getting on with our lives:

1. Life is short.

Wait. We forget that? Yes, yes we do. Most of us keep waiting for “life to begin” forgetting that while we wait life goes on and we get older. It is best to realise that while waiting for what we want we do other things that make us happy. If you dream of writing a book, start with writing short stories online. If you dream of becoming a singer, start with a pub or talent night. It’s no use only waiting as nobody knows you yet and your talent are sitting at home wasting away.
Life is short: if you want to do something, do it while you can.

2. Life is what you make it

Oh, there it is again. That old cliché. Well, it is a cliché for a reason: it’s true. Nobody can live your life for you. It is you and you alone who ignites the flame. Others can help and you can build a team. But someone has to start whatever it is you want. If you want to be happy: chose to be. If you feel stuck look inside for what it is that blocks you. Even in the darkest hour there is always something that can bring light.

3. Be kind to yourself

A lot of people claim you should “love yourself”, as if it’s that easy. But I have found that a lot of people feel troubled by that notion. Some go as far as saying “there is nothing to love about me”. Of course there always is something to love in every one, but you have to find it first.
Start with being kind to yourself. Allow yourself to feel proud of big or small accomplishments. Compliment yourself if you think you look okay on certain days. Allow yourself a treat once in a while: new clothes, a piece of chocolate, anything.
My motto: if you can’t love yourself, at-least be kind. Kindness can lead to love.

4. Appreciate Me-time and quality-time with others

These days we all rush through our days without seeing, feeling or even thinking. We stare at a computer at work and go home to stare at a different screen. We miss out on friends, family and even ourselves. This is a shame and a major source for depression.
We all should schedule some time in our days, at least three hours for family and ourselves. Time to talk, have fun and think. Time away from the screen is important as a lot of our lives might be online now, but those we are closest to are right next to us.

5. Get out there

If you feel unhappy in any place or situation. If you are unhappy with certain people in your life: leave or let them go. Holding on to anything or anybody despite it making you feel bad never did anyone any good. You can waste years of your life trying to help, doing the right thing or fearing change or being alone. Don’t, in the end it just leaves you with nothing and you will have to start over again.
Live life for you and try to be as happy as you can possible be, even if that means making changes.

BY DANNII COHEN http://www.lifehack.org/417845/the-5-life-lessons-we-should-never-forget-again?ref=mail&mtype=daily_newsletter&mid=20160725_customized&uid=687414&email=drmsriram%40yahoo.com&action=click

BOOK SPECIAL ....................The Effortless Effort of Creativity: Jane Hirshfield

BOOK SPECIAL The Effortless Effort 

of Creativity: Jane Hirshfield 

on Storytelling, the Art of Concentration, and Difficulty as a Consecrating Force of Creative Attention

“The poets (by which I mean all artists) are finally the only people who know the truth about us,” James Baldwin wrote in lamenting the artist’s struggleat a time “when something awful is happening to a civilization, when it ceases to produce poets, and, what is even more crucial, when it ceases in any way whatever to believe in the report that only the poets can make.” We no longer have Baldwin to awaken us to the gravest perils of our own era — one in which the poetic spirit isn’t merely neglected but is being forced to surrender at gunpoint. To produce poets, in this largest Baldwinian sense of creative seers of human truth, seems to be among the most urgent tasks of our time.
The mastery of that task is what the poet Jane Hirshfieldexamines in her 1997 essay collection Nine Gates: Entering the Mind of Poetry.
Defining poetry as “the clarification and magnification of being,” she writes: “Here, as elsewhere in life, attentiveness only deepens what it regards.” In the superb opening essay, titled “Poetry and the Mind of Concentration,” Hirshfield examines the nature of this clarified, magnified deepening of being — concentration as consecration — by probing its six main components: music, rhetoric, image, emotion, story, and voice. Although focused on the reading and writing of poetry, her insight ripples outward in widening circles (as Rilke might way) to encompass every kind of writing, all art, and even the art of living itself.

Hirshfield writes:
Every good poem begins in language awake to its own connections — language that hears itself and what is around it, sees itself and what is around it, looks back at those who look into its gaze and knows more perhaps even than we do about who are, what we are. It begins, that is, in the mind and body of concentration.
By concentration, I mean a particular state of awareness: penetrating, unified, and focused, yet also permeable and open. This quality of consciousness, though not easily put into words, is instantly recognizable. Aldous Huxley described it as the moment the doors or perception open; James Joyce called in epiphany. The experience of concentration may be quietly physical—a simple, unexpected sense of deep accord between yourself and everything. It may come as the harvest of long looking and leave us, as it did Wordsworth, a mind thought “too deep for tears.” Within action, it is felt as a grace state: time slows and extends, and a person’s every movement and decision seem to partake of perfection. Concentration can also be place into things — it radiates undimmed from Vermeer’s paintings, form the small marble figure of a lyre-player from ancient Greece, from a Chinese three-footed bowl — and into musical notes, words, ideas. In the wholeheartedness of concentration, world and self begin to cohere. With that state comes an enlarging: of what may be known, what may be felt, what may be done.
Considering the unparalleled pleasures of practicing familiar to all who endeavor in the “absorbing errand” of creative work, particularly to those who attain mastery, Hirshfield points to deliberate practice as an essential aspect of concentration — one that transcends mechanical skill and reaches into the psychological, even the spiritual:
Violinists practicing scales and dancers repeating the same movements over decades are not simply warming up or mechanically training their muscles. They are learning how to attend unswervingly, moment by moment, to themselves and their art; learning to come into steady presence, free from the distractions of interest or boredom.
With an eye to the obsessive daily routines and strange creative rituals of many writers, and to the state of intense focus in the creative act known as “flow,” Hirshfield explores the path to concentration:
Immersion in art itself can be the place of entry… Yet however it is brought into being, true concentration appears — paradoxically — at the moment willed effort drops away… At such moments, there may be some strong emotion present — a feeling of joy, or even grief — but as often, in deep concentration, the self disappears. We seem to fall utterly into the object of our attention, or else vanish into attentiveness itself.
This may explain why the creative is so often described as impersonal and beyond self, as if inspiration were literally what its etymology implies, something “breathed in.” We refer, however metaphorically, to the Muse, and speak of profound artistic discovery and revelation. And however much we may come to believe that “the real” is subjective and constructed, we sill feel art is a path not just to beauty, but to truth: if “truth” is a chosen narrative, then new stories, new aesthetics, are also new truths.
A century after Rilke extolled the soul-expanding power of difficulty and urged us to “arrange our life according to that principle which counsels us that we must always hold to the difficult,” Hirshfield writes:
Difficulty itself may be a path toward concentration — expended effort weaves us into a task, and successful engagement, however laborious, becomes also a labor of love. The work of writing brings replenishment even to the writer dealing with painful subjects or working out formal problems, and there are times when suffering’s only open path is through an immersion in what is. The eighteenth-century Urdu poet Ghalib described the principle this way: “For the raindrop, joy is in entering the river — / Unbearable pain becomes its own cure.”
Echoing Nietzsche’s insistence that a full life requires embracing rather than running from difficulty and Alfred Kazin’s beautiful case for the reality-enlarging quality of contradiction, Hirshfield adds:
Difficulty then, whether of life or of craft, is not a hindrance to an artist. Sartre called genius “not a gift, but the way a person invents in desperate circumstances.” Just as geological pressure transforms ocean sediment into limestone, the pressure of an artist’s concentration goes into the making of any fully realized work. Much of beauty, both in art and in life, is a balancing of the lines of forward-flowing desire with those of resistance — a gnarled tree, the flow of a statue’s draped cloth. Through such tensions, physical or mental, the world in which we exist becomes itself. Great art, we might say, is thought that has been concentrated in just this way: honed and shaped by a silky attention brought to bear on the recalcitrant matter of earth and of life. We seek in art the elusive intensity by which it knows.
Hirshfield turns to the role of language in concentration and the role of concentration in language, in writing, in poetry itself:
Great sweeps of thought, emotion, and perception are compressed to forms the mind is able to hold — into images, sentences, and stories that serve as entrance tokens to large and often slippery realms of being… Words hold fast in the mind, seeded with the surplus of beauty and meaning that is concentration’s mark.
More than a century after William James asserted that “a purely disembodied human emotion is a nonentity” in his seminal theory of how our bodies affect our feelings, Hirshfield examines the dimensions of time and space in language through the focusing lens of the body:
Shaped language is strangely immortal, living in a meadowy freshness outside of time.
But it also lives in the moment, in us. Emotion, intellect, and physiology are inseparably connected in the links of a poem’s sound. It is difficult to feel intimacy while shouting, to rage in a low whisper, to skip and weep at the same time.


PERSONAL SUCCESS SPECIAL ............These 10 Questions Can Foretell If You’ll Be Successful In Life

These 10 Questions Can Foretell If You’ll Be Successful In Life

Success isn’t limited to just how far you’ve climbed up the corporate ladder, but other aspects of your life, too, such as instilling a healthy balance between work and family, pursuing and achieving various goals and dreams, and simply embracing who you are. However, there are scientifically proven signs that will indicate whether or not you will truly be successful in life, in whatever way you choose to define success. Here are 10 questions that predict whether you’ll spread your wings and soar toward your goals and success.

1. Are You Open And Mentally Prepared To Grow?

People, who are opposed to the idea that people’s character, intelligence and creativity can change, tend to have slower development in their personal growth, because they want to avoid failure instead of working on those three areas of their lives. But those people with a “growth mindset” see failure as a learning point from which to leap from as they bound onward and upward toward success. They embrace challenges, survive setbacks, embrace and improve based off of criticism, and will attain their goals. Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck researched how people view their personality’s influence on their happiness and success and found that those positive and open individuals believe their true potential is limitless and so are more willing to work harder and be more dedicated.

2. Are You Private About Your Goals?

Surprisingly, psychologists say that telling someone about your personal goal makes it less likely to materialize. Entrepreneur Derek Sivers, who spoke in a TED Talk Keep Your Goals To Yourself said that to meet a goal, a person must take steps, put in the hard work and not stop until he or she is satisfied. But once you tell someone about your goal and they recognize your mission, that’s called “social reality” where the mind is swayed into feeling that you’ve already met your goal and you’re no longer motivated to proceed.

3. Are You Happy?

Positivity is a key ingredient to success and being happy helps with that upbeat outlook. That doesn’t necessarily mean you should be satisfied and not strive for greater goals and successes, but be happy with you and where you’re at each step of the way. Psychiatrist and author of Heaven and Hell: The Psychology of the Emotions George Vaillant’s research revealed that love is truly the key to happiness. Even if an individual relishes success in work, rakes in a boatload of money and enjoys good healthy, that person will not be completely happy without love and positive relationships.

4. Do You Have A High Level Of Self-Esteem?

It takes confidence to have the competence to grow and gain successes. Authors Katty Kay and Claire Shipman, who penned The Confidence Code, note that low self-confidence leads to inaction, but taking those first steps armed with an action plan will boost a person’s belief that he or she really can succeed.

5. Are You Exactly Who You Want To Be?

Exuding the qualities of successful leaders doesn’t mean you have to be fake, but instead means you’re working toward the new and improved you. In her Harvard Business Review article titled The Authenticity Paradox, professor Herminia Ibarra said that “play-acting” will help you gain confidence and others will feel the same way about you, too.

6. Do You Have Extreme Will Power?

One method to increasing your will power is to select one thing to improve upon bit by bit every day and to not procrastinate things that take just a few minutes to tackle, such as loading the dishwasher after dinner or swapping out the laundry in the washer to the dryer. Author James Clear notes that elite performers in a wide variety of fields, from athletes to musicians to artists and even CEOs, are more consistent than others.

7. Are You A Social Butterfly?

People who are both smart and socially adept tend to earn more. According to a study conducted by Catherine Weinberger, an economics professor at the University of California, Santa Barbara, having both cognitive ability and social skills are one key to success.

8. Are You Ambitious?

One characteristic that repeatedly appears in highly successful people is grit. Psychologist Angela Duckworth has studying both kids and adults and found that those who have grit, or stamina, are hard workers with their minds set on a goal and will work harder than others to turn that goal into a reality. Jason Ma, author of Youth Leaders 3.0: Stories, Insights, and Tips for Next-Generation Achievers, notes that anyone can be ambitious with the right motivation.

9. Are You A Risk Taker?

Ambitious people dead set on achieving their goals also know they often must take some risk, which can be quite difficult for others. Ma noted that oftentimes a breakthrough in the path to success can be spurred out of a well-managed crisis. These people also don’t spend too much time honing their skill set, but rather executing a strategy utilizing those valuable skill sets.

10. Are You Steadfast?

Do not compete with others and let their negativity or successes drag you down. Ma notes that a person’s biggest competitor should be himself or herself. Do not measure yourself against others and do not them steer you off course.

How To Be Successful In A Nutshell

As you work on the “new you” with an eye on the prize of success, remember Maslow’s hierarchy of needs that explains how you cannot be the best you can be until your first tier needs are met. These are the basic needs, such as food, financial ability to pay your bills, and support and self-esteem that buoys your self-worth. Once you have a game plan mapped out for meeting those basic needs, then begin working on the next levels and charge ahead down that path to success. Be sure to surround yourself with other ambitious, driven, goal-setting people and support each other as you work toward attaining those goals.
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INNOVATION SPECIAL ........Humans once opposed coffee and refrigeration.

Humans once opposed coffee and refrigeration. Here’s why we often hate new stuff.


Humans have a habit of stalling their own progress. From coffee to mechanical refrigeration to genetically altered food, history is littered with innovations that sparked resistance before becoming fixtures in everyday life. The same theme is playing out today as some lawmakers and consumers question the safety of driverless cars, the economic impact of automation or the security of mobile banking
In hindsight, opposition to innovations such as mechanical farm equipment or recorded music may seem ludicrous. But the past 600 years of human history help explain why humans often oppose new technologies and why that pattern of opposition continues to this day. Calestous Juma, a professor in Harvard University’s Kennedy School of Government, explores this phenomenon in his latest book, “Innovation and Its Enemies: Why People Resist New Technologies.”
Calestous Juma 
Among Juma’s assertions is that people don’t fear innovation simply because the technology is new, but because innovation often means losing a piece of their identity or lifestyle. Innovation can also separate people from nature or their sense of purpose — two things that Juma argues are fundamental to the human experience. Innovations sat down with Juma to discuss his findings, and what government and industry have historically gotten wrong about innovation. What follows are eight key takeaways from that conversation.
1) People sometimes oppose innovation even when it seems to be in their best interest. 
The impetus for Juma’s book came in the late 1990s when, as the executive secretary of the United Nations Convention on Biological Diversity, he oversaw international negotiations related to the regulation of genetically modified crops. Groups both for and against the expanded use of genetically modified crops were vocal and dogged, even when Juma noticed they seemed to have a common goal. Those in favor of the technology said it could reduce the use of pesticides, which environmentalists who opposed the technology had long lambasted as harmful to the environment. “What struck me at that time was [the] two contradictory positions,” Juma said. “That ended up framing this issue in a larger context. There are moments when new technologies that could be beneficial for humanity . . . very often end up being opposed by the same groups that might benefit from those technologies.”
2) Technologies that are vastly superior to their predecessors, or don’t have any predecessors, are more easily adopted.
There may be a coffee shop on every street corner today, but the caffeinated beverage once caused much brouhaha. Juma writes that coffee first found popularity among imams in the Middle East who needed to stay awake to call prayers at the appropriate time. It simply did the job better than any other stimulant at the time, Juma said. But coffee took much longer — centuries longer — to catch on in Germany, France or England, where people were hooked on beer, wine and tea,  respectively. “Much of the resistance comes from those who support or are supported by the incumbent product,” Juma said. “The biggest lesson from the coffee story is if a new technology has superior properties, overwhelmingly superior to its predecessors, chances are that technology will get adopted no matter what.”
3) Resistance to new technologies comes from three key constituents, including the average consumer.
Juma identified in his research three key sources of opposition to innovation: those with commercial interests in existing products, those who identify with existing products and those who might lose power as a result of change. The first group is perhaps the most obvious. Many industries have been disrupted, and even decimated, by innovation. Just take a look at the futile efforts of music publishers to stop or slow the transition to digital music, another topic Juma tackles in his book. Some consumers might oppose an innovation because the existing product is deeply entrenched in their identity, culture or customs. Britons preferred tea time at home to lounging in a coffee shop, for example. Finally, the emergence of new technologies can also result in a shift in economic and political power, redistributing wealth and influence away from some groups and toward others. The expansion of tractors and other mechanical equipment reduced the need for farm labor, and the shift in population away from rural areas had significant political implications, Juma writes.
4) Humans make decisions about new innovations with their gut rather than evidence. 
Opponents and enthusiasts of a new technology will often make bold claims to bolster their argument, calling upon health, science, the environment, psychology and any other number of disciplines for support. Sometimes these assertions are rooted in fact, other times not. People once claimed coffee could make you sterile or drive you into a state of hysteria. Juma said beneath those arguments was typically an instinctive fear of new technology, rather than a reasoned response.”People react intuitively, and they collect the evidence to support what they’re doing,” Juma said. “They see a new product and there is an emotional reaction to that product because it challenges their outlook on the world. This has been the story with almost every new product.”
5) People flock to technologies that make them more autonomous and mobile. 
Cellular phones and digital music saw rapid adoption because they allowed humans to be more autonomous and more mobile. You no longer need to be home to make a phone call, or tethered to a boombox to hear music. Humans like to move around and do so at their own convenience, a preference that some of the most successful innovations have exploited to their advantage, Juma said. “That’s one reason you see a lot of technology being integrated into automobiles,” Juma said. Similarly, the human brain is attuned to “looking for patterns, looking for novelty and thriving on feedback,” he said. “I think those have become very fundamental aspects of our being human, and that shapes how we select which technologies we get passionate about, and which ones might just come along and just pass.”
6) People typically don’t fear new technology, they fear the loss it will bring. 
There is a convention that people are simply afraid of what they don’t understand. That may not apply to technology, Juma said, at least not exactly. “It’s the loss they are afraid of, not the newness,” he said. That loss (perceived or real) can be a part of their identity, their way of life or their economic security. People who live off food grown in their community or who work the land for money were inclined to resist the advent and adoption of mechanical farm equipment. Juma said understanding the source of that fear can help companies and governments to mitigate resistance to innovation by involving those who are likely to be effected in the design of new technologies.
7) Technologists often don’t think about the impact their inventions have on society. 
Historically, technologists have been more concerned with the functionality of the products they create, paying less attention to the implications it may have on society at large, Juma contends. “I think they get very much focused on the instrumental part of technology. Does it work or not work? They don’t connect it with the social dimensions,” he said. That may be starting to change as Silicon Valley faces scrutiny about the security and privacy implications of new technologies. Juma points to artificial intelligence as a present day example. Concerns about unruly robots running amok has prompted serious discussions about adding a “kill button” to artificial intelligence products, an idea that Google and others have been working on. 

8) Innovation is not slow, linear or incremental — but the government doesn’t realize that. 
Most governments don’t appreciate that “technologies advance in an exponential way,” Juma said, resulting in policymakers who are constantly surprised by new innovations and often fail to regulate them successfully. Uber offers a prime case study. The ride-sharing service exploded in popularity and rapidly expanded to cities around the world, sparking an outcry from taxicab commissions the world over. In most cases, the government’s response was slow and reactionary. “That’s because they think about [innovation] in a slow and linear way. That’s how it’s been in the past; that’s not the case anymore,” Juma said. To combat that mindset, governments at the federal, state and local level need to lean on the expertise of advisers with deep knowledge of science and technology, Juma said.
By Steven Overly 

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